• iAvicenna@lemmy.world
    1182·
    10 个月前

    umm trying to lure someone into marriage with expensive gifts and promise that her parents will buy them an apartment is exactly being materialistic?

    • DaMonsterKnees@lemmy.world
      46·
      10 个月前

      Shit mate, now I don’t know if that’s the joke, and we’re being played OR some other shit my simple ass can’t even begin to wrap around my grape.

      • iAvicenna@lemmy.world
        6·
        10 个月前

        I considered that a possibility but the title didn’t suggest that. If so, it’s too subtle for me…

  • doctorcrimson@lemmy.world
    812·
    10 个月前

    TBF if you meet an Asian Girl in Uni in the USA then statistically they are more likely to be of a wealthier upbringing than like 90% of Americans.

      • BakerBagel@midwest.social
        68·
        10 个月前

        Could you afford to move to Tokyo for 4 years of university? It’s expensive and requires wealthy parents to go to school abroad like that.

        • EnderMB@lemmy.world
          15·
          10 个月前

          Not to mention that most colleges/universities charge international students more than domestic. Many Asian students attend university in the UK purely for prestige, and many of them fork out enough money for managed accommodation that it’s become a huge business in itself.

        • jaybone@lemmy.world
          8·
          10 个月前

          I’ll go ahead and be that guy…

          Some asians in the US were born here, to working class asian parents.

          • AToM.exe@lemmy.world
            1·
            9 个月前

            That’s what I was confused about. Like, how can you tell someones money by their race. It had the same energy as “they look mexican, they must be illegals” to me.

  • fibojoly
    31·
    10 个月前

    Anon met a rich girl. Which makes sense because they are the ones who can actually afford to travel!

  • phorq@lemmy.mlEspañol
    23·
    10 个月前

    $3k in just clothes as a gift? Nah, she don’t need a sugar daddy because her real daddy won Squid Game.

  • jaschen@lemm.ee
    72·
    10 个月前

    It really depends on the country. Anecdotally Chinanese girls from deeeeep mainland China are materialistic. They sorta can be since there are so few young girls in China so they can be picky.

    Girls from Taiwan, Philippines ,Japan, Vietnam, Thailand are not like that.

    • BakerBagel@midwest.social
      9·
      10 个月前

      Countries have a mixed bag of people. Some people only care about money, some want to make the world a better place, some are only interested in making a living and raising a family. Human behavior doesn’t change from country to to country, ethnicity, or religion, or even historical period. The only thing that changes are the outlets available to reach thise goals. Ancient Egyptians, Roman citizens, Arab nomads, Mongolian shepards, Aztec farmers, Appalachian coal miners, and some future Martian terra former all want to make sure their needs are met.

    • bionicjoey@lemmy.ca
      6·
      10 个月前

      IDK, I’m dating a girl from mainland and she isn’t very materialistic I don’t think.

      • HotDogFingies@kbin.social
        15·
        10 个月前

        I don’t think you can really generalize based off race/location. American culture lends itself to being extremely materialistic, but plenty of people from the US find it disgusting.

        It’s entitled rich people. It’s always entitled rich people. They’re the same everywhere.

        • bionicjoey@lemmy.ca
          2·
          10 个月前

          Fair enough. And as mentioned elsewhere in this thread a lot of Westerners’ exposure to mainlanders would be international students who are already going to be selected from the wealthier Chinese people.

      • jaschen@lemm.ee
        21·
        10 个月前

        Sounds like your girlfriend might be studying here with a student visa or born here. Typically those girls come from very rich families and their concern is not “How do I use my daughter to make some money” instead, they are more focused on the child’s needs.

        When I say DEEP China. I’m talking about girls that is middle class and below in China.

        I have friends that had to give a million rmb to her family to marry a girl. And do some fucked up shit during the ceremony, like drink foot water.

        • bionicjoey@lemmy.ca
          5·
          10 个月前

          Yeah she’s a PhD student and her parents both had (what I assume would be) good paying careers. That being said, Chinese people are still humans and can have an entire range of experiences and outlooks, regardless of class. But you’re right that certain ideas are more culturally ingrained.

          • jaschen@lemm.ee
            1·
            10 个月前

            Ya, for sure they are elite. Plenty of doctors want to come to America and have zero change. You’re basically dating a 1%er of China. Don’t fuck it up.

        • can
          1·
          10 个月前

          And do some fucked up shit during the ceremony, like drink foot water.

          Go on…

          • jaschen@lemm.ee
            1·
            10 个月前

            There are these “games” that they make the groom play. Most of which involves giving money to the family.

            Like, doing 100 pushups and if you can’t you pay. Or drinking water that was used to wash your brides’ feet or give money. Most of the other ones are mild like do a sexy dance on a guy friend.