I am talking about love in the sense of romantic love. I am very short and ugly which makes me very unattractive. Never had a girlfriend or touched a girl. I have many girl friends but one of them was my crush but I never asked her as I knew she would never like me. I know people will say that just get successful and rich and girls will like you, but will they like me or just money. What is the point of dating then. Is there any way I will get genuine love or am I destined to live alone for life.

All the girls say they want a tall guy, I can’t grow my height, trust me I tried, I visited the doctor, I tried exercise, I tried hormones, I tried a special diet that some random YouTuber told me, I tried everything. I can’t become tall for you. I am still thinking about limb lengthening surgery, The doctor said it is very risky and very possible I could never walk, but I want to take every chance possible. Trust me I tried. As soon as I get money I am doing surgery. This was my limit I can’t go beyond that.

  • TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone
    21·
    9 months ago

    You need to isolate the person in your head telling you this, take them out back and shoot them dead. This is a defeatist attitude and it’s simply hindering you. Not only that, it’s only superficially true. It doesn’t conform with a wider wealth of personal experiences that myself and many others certainly have.

    This. This way of thinking is your biggest enemy.

      • TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        18·
        9 months ago

        Naw dude, it’s manufactured and it’s limiting you. Others may participate in this manufactured concept but its still manufactured. You’re not gonna overcome that until you figure out how to destroy the part of you that believes this.

          • idiomaddict@feddit.de
            6·
            9 months ago

            Is it truth that no unattractive, short man has ever had a relationship without being rich? No. That means it’s possible, which means it’s possible for you. But frankly, it’s not going to happen if you are in your own head about it.

          • DaGeek247@fedia.io
            3·
            9 months ago

            The only truth here is the one you choose. There are upward of seven billion people in the world. The truth you chase is the one that becomes your reality, especially when it comes to your relationships with other people.

            To answer your question; believing yourself to be ugly and that woman only date men taller than you is a bigger factor in your ability to find a partner than the woman who dont date short and/or nonconventionally attractive men.

      • ivanafterall@kbin.social
        10·
        9 months ago

        What would you say if I told you there are girls who actually prefer short guys? Hell, some people just like variety–I appreciate tall women, short women, medium women. I like 'em all.

        Having said that, I have met the girls you’re referencing. They do exist. A few months back, I went on a coffee date with a girl. Just before it, she made some joke about wanting to make sure I’m tall, because she hates dancing with guys who are shorter than her, so she just wanted to make sure. I wanted to vomit. I very rarely encounter a girl taller than me. I’m ~6’1, maybe pushing a little higher on a good day when my posture is okay. I want nothing to do with a girl who so values my height. Because if it’s THAT important, you’re literally one 6’3 guy away from a relationship crisis. By the way, the reason she was like that? She was taller than average. She was insecure and taking it out on everyone else. But imagine if I’d said to her, “I’m sorry, I just prefer shorter women. I find them more feminine.” Gross. She was surprised when I didn’t bother to hug her or…anything else, really…after coffee. Just got in my car and left. Whether you’re tall or short, that’s a bad match.

        There are girls who are like you say, but they are absolutely not all like that. You just need to focus on a better class of prospect.

              • TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone
                12·
                9 months ago

                You’re not finding them because of your attitude.

                There are PLENTY of women who will happily hook up with, date and love short men. I’ve personally met more than I can count.

                • Drusas@kbin.social
                  5·
                  9 months ago

                  I didn’t even notice that my now-husband is considered short when we started dating until someone else mentioned it. I was just like, “Oh, I hadn’t thought about it.” Because why would I? We got on great.

                  • TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone
                    5·
                    9 months ago

                    Absolutely I can but can you tell me what value there is in me naming people in my life who you’ve never met? What good will seeing two names do? The attitude your carrying is just going to tell you that I’m lying no matter what.

                  • xmunk
                    4·
                    9 months ago

                    My partner’s ex was short and she didn’t give a fuck about that - a few of my childhood friends were short and they’re all married now. There are features that are considered generally attractive and it’s certainly easier in life if you have those traits but, honestly, they’re so fucking unimportant compared to the other shit.

                    If height was really that much of an issue then how could we all have been drooling over Peter Dinklage’s portrayal of Tyrion - hint it might be because there are more important things than height.

                  • idiomaddict@feddit.de
                    3·
                    9 months ago

                    My husband’s shorter than I am. I’m sure there are other people here in a relationship that would be a counter example, but my sister’s husband is also shorter than she is (both by 2-3”).

          • FeminalPanda@lemmings.world
            1·
            9 months ago

            I’m right here, but they have to not give a shit about height, if they shit on themselves all they time, like you are doing them it just makes it draining to be around them.