I have this thing where I see a random person on the street, in the store, or in the park and it makes me picture what it would be like to be together with this person, to build a house together, have pets together, live a life together. I try not to stare as I walk past and go about my day.
For minutes to hours I have this gut-punch feeling that the love of my life just walked out of the door and I’ll never see them again. Soon after, when the stranger is all but forgotten I’ll run into the next stranger and the cycle repeats.
Somehow I believe this is a mundane and typical thing that occurs to men, maybe to non-binary people and women too? However, I’ve never spoken to anyone about this in real life. So I’d like to hear your thoughts. Does this happen to you?
Anybody you like can be the love of your life. This notion that fate has a special person just for you is Hollywood nonsense. Find someone who’s worth it, and make them the love of your life.
Yes but… to be fair, people generally underplay the enormous importance of things like pheromones. Compatibility without pheromones working in your favour is doubtful. It’s more than just smell, but because it’s hard to sense or pin down people ascribe magical properties to it like ‘soul mate’ etc.
If that’s working for you, you have a chance at overcoming minor differences like enjoying stories about royalty and their loyal vassals resisting takeover of the galaxy by fascists versus enjoying stories about a utopian post scarcity interspecies society encountering challenges as they try to better themselves and avoid the borg and other disney thralls.