I’m looking for any examples that you might have encountered and links to them.

  • wise_pancake@lemmy.ca
    411·
    9 months ago

    This one, that I just started.

    The commenter after me ties their shoelaces very well, and I’m jealous.

    • actionjbone
      29·
      9 months ago

      Thank you very much. It took a lot of practice to learn to do it so well.

      • Nunya@lemdro.idEnglish
        18·
        9 months ago

        I initially joined this conversation to say that there would be no way for anyone to deserve such a great shoe tying complement, but after researching your abilities I must say that I stand corrected. Bravo on your fantastic ability.

    • sqw@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
      7·
      9 months ago

      i learned a new shoe-tying technique and try to share it with others when they’re game

  • actionjbone
    9·
    9 months ago

    Styleforum has plenty. For example, people congratulating each other on thrift store finds or helping each other learn about shoe care.

  • PeepinGoodArgs@reddthat.comEnglish
    7·
    9 months ago

    You can peruse my history. I ask a lot of clarifying questions to understand what people mean before I criticize their position.

    • zero_spelled_with_an_ecks@programming.dev
      9·
      9 months ago

      Do you ever get burned out on people not starting out in good faith? Like I used to enjoy back and forth, but a while ago I gave up because the majority are super defensive instead of inquisitive.

      • PeepinGoodArgs@reddthat.comEnglish
        3·
        9 months ago

        That’s exactly why I ask clarifying questions.

        Bad faith arguers usually won’t answer a question because then they’d have to reveal they’re arguing in bad faith. But that ends up being the tell anyway.

        There was a recent instance where I asked someone if they really supported free speech, which they arguing for in response to a Canadian policy that would criminalize calling for genocide. Really supporting free speech meant permitting calls for genocide against a group that included them.

        They never answeres the question about whether they supported calls for genocide that might include them. I asked them twice.

        In that case, it’s easy enough to just stop responding to anything they say. They’ve outed themselves by not participating in the conversation.

  • muntedcrocodile@lemmy.world
    5·
    9 months ago

    Not my comment history i spend a lot of time arguing with people.

    I do have to say the person responding to me has an excellent taste in lemmy comments.

    • peepee_longstonking@lemmy.whynotdrs.org
      3·
      9 months ago

      I’d say even arguing, so long as it’s in good faith is healthy online conversation.

      What makes a conversation unhealthy exactly? I’d say mostly things like

      • not arguing in good faith (common from the right wing)

      • not respecting other commenters perspectives

      • insulting others

      • calling them liars without evidence

      • tribalism and group think

      • getting unnecessarily heated

      • needing the last word

      • ganging up on people

    • xmunk
      31·
      9 months ago

      I do have to say the person responding to me has an excellent taste in lemmy comments.

      Ur wrong and smelly.

        • xmunk
          11·
          9 months ago

          And you’re slower than a glass of molasses in the middle of a Canadian winter.

  • Nikls94@lemmy.world
    4·
    9 months ago

    Actually, a lot of conversations here are quite healthy imho. Outside of meme-communities that is. Sometimes I’m on Reddit because on here there’s not really a flashlight 🔦 community. People comments over there used to be constructive, sometimes obviously satirical - now there’s just trolls and mean people.

    Edit: made the ~ to ~~