Neighbours recently had their home remodelled, which involved them putting new glazing in their bathroom. The glass is not frosted enough and there’s a lot to see.

They are large windows too, starting at knee hight. How do I bring this up?

Bonus points if someone can tell me why this community keeps showing my subscription as pending.

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    1 year ago

    I feel like most of the comments are making a bigger deal out of this than it really is. “Hey guys, just FYI your frosted windows aren’t frosted enough, we can see through them from over here, just thought you should know”

    It’s not really a complicated conversation.

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      Right? It’d be a bit of an embarrassing conversation but it would be a lot less awkward to bring it up now instead of waiting months to tell them. The longer you wait the harder it’ll be to tell them that you can see them naked.

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    The framing in this conversation is important. This is difficult, but making it clear you’d rather not see that is how I’d go.

    I’d tell them that I noticed I could clearly see the furnature, wall, or some detail and would rather not see them indecent.

    No way around it, it’s going to be a bit awkward, but telling them shouldn’t seem like a weird thing to do. If you’re polite, telling them about the issue is a kind thing to do.

    Maybe a note outside their door? Could be anonymous if you don’t know them well and they don’t have cameras, saves both you and them the awkwardness

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      I’d tell them that I noticed I could clearly see the furnature, wall, or some detail and would rather not see them indecent.

      This is a great advice. Little buffer gray zone so you don’t have to directly say “hey, I can see you when you take a shit”.

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        I may be overthinking it, but I feel like bringing up those kinds of details unprompted is more awkward. Like you’re hiding that you did see something.

        Just say you can see into their bathroom and thought they should know. If they ask what you saw, or if they look absolutely mortified you can assure them you didn’t see anything like that.

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          I think it’s just a white lie to make this interaction easier. It’s something to fall back on. Probably both parties in that conversation actually know that something was seen but this way it’s easier to move past that (and ignore it).

          And yeah just saying “I can see in your bathroom” would work too but it might be a bit hard to say that if you have social anxiety (or something) so this plan is just to alleviate that stress.

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    1 year ago

    Invite him over while she is taking a shower. Enjoy the view together. Let them draw their own conclusions.

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    1 year ago

    Stand naked outside the window and knock.

    Or, just put a letter in the mailbox or on the front porch.

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      1 year ago

      I choose your answer (The first bit). This will get the message across, while also restoring a balance and asserting dominance.

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    You don’t have to say “Hey, I can see your dang-a-lang” but maybe something like “Hey, you might want to frost your window more because I can almost see my reflection in your mirror” might work.

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    You’re assuming they care. Maybe they’re comfortable with themselves. I used to make eye contact with my neighbors when I was showering and they were mowing. They stopped looking.

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    Bring up this issue happening with you, in casual conversation. For example: “when I moved here the house had a lot of issues, for example […] and the glass was not frosted enough. We eventually fixed this […]”

    The idea here is that you won’t be telling them directly, they’re going to realise it on their own.

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      I love this haha, I live in NZ and people here are very indirect and non confrontational.

      I’m Dutch so quite the opposite.

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        I was working with a Dutch guy, he’d just flown back to Netherlands and I sent him an email that went something like:

        Hi Jan,

        Hope you made it back ok,

        <work question>

        Cheers,
        Dandan

        He replied inline to my email and under “Hope you made it back ok” he wrote " >I do not understand why this is relevant"

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    They might be installed backwards. I think some frosted glass is designed to act similar to a one-way mirror. So they’re probably inside thinking that the glass is practically opaque.

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    Ask them to dinner and explain you usually like to enjoy a hot meal with someone before you see them naked. Classy AF.

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    I have no idea what to do about the not-so-frosty windows, but regarding your bonus question, that’s just lemmy being laggy. Next time you refresh you’ll see that you’re subscribed. I had the same question yesterday and saw it being answered somewhere.