If you’re not trying to help someone get an abortion or gender-affirming care, you’re probably safe. Those are the real issues! (Sarcastic, if not clear, and referencing the absurd reporting websites some states have set up)
According to Wikipedia, Texas doesn’t have a “with parental consent” law. If he’s 53, she’s gotta be 17 or older. They wouldn’t be able to get married until she turned 18.
I got divorced in my late 20s, and started dating again around 30. A girl I had met who was 21 asked me why I hadn’t asked her out, and the truth was she seemed way out of my league - very attractive person, very bright. So I went out with her, and she was nice, but I just couldn’t do it because she seemed so young. Not immature, just young. And it was so strange going out with someone who hadn’t even seen the same TV shows as I watched growing up, which sounds superficial, but it was honestly weird.
I just can’t imagine dating someone decades younger than me. An underage person with a 53-year-old is just gross.
Feel ya. I was 50 and some young neighbors were hanging out one Saturday, 20-yo or so. I noticed a friend’s hands were absolutely perfect, beautiful hands. Slim, long, porcelain white.
And it grossed me out. They looked like doll’s hands, a child’s hands. Eww.
My wife, same age, doesn’t understand why I so love her hands. They have age, maturity, I love them.
Valuing each other’s “mileage” is so wholesome and needs to be normalized. Too many of us are taught we have this tiny window of being pleasing to look at before the “imperfections” start getting toted up…and it isn’t true. I can’t imagine being with someone in their early 20’s. That’s still a kid in my eyes! They need to BE a kid and experience relationships with other kids where they are equals in figuring out everything together.
My partner and I are about a year apart in age and we remember all our weird awkward growing up moments together where we struggled to figure things out and each one is a treasure. They if anything get just get more and more attractive with age.
I genuinely don’t understand this thinking. The idea of partnering with someone who doesn’t share a similar life experience sounds difficult and frustrating.
I get that they’re not looking to partner with anyone and that’s the point.
You can’t force a person into therapy for a few months and it “just work”. Mental health, especially habits and beliefs, aren’t some easy to solve problems “if only they went to therapy for a bit”. If they don’t want to change (which they won’t if they are forced into it) means it is just a waste of everyone’s time.
53 and looking for someone “of age or with parental consent”?
Excuse me while I go and vomit.
Yeah, I’m getting divorced at 35 and matching with women younger than 30 freaks me out. This mf’r wants a 17yr old? Yuck.
Possibly younger with parental consent!
Wonder how young it can be by Texas laws, but also don’t want to look it up and be put on a watchlist.
If you’re not trying to help someone get an abortion or gender-affirming care, you’re probably safe. Those are the real issues! (Sarcastic, if not clear, and referencing the absurd reporting websites some states have set up)
According to Wikipedia, Texas doesn’t have a “with parental consent” law. If he’s 53, she’s gotta be 17 or older. They wouldn’t be able to get married until she turned 18.
I got divorced in my late 20s, and started dating again around 30. A girl I had met who was 21 asked me why I hadn’t asked her out, and the truth was she seemed way out of my league - very attractive person, very bright. So I went out with her, and she was nice, but I just couldn’t do it because she seemed so young. Not immature, just young. And it was so strange going out with someone who hadn’t even seen the same TV shows as I watched growing up, which sounds superficial, but it was honestly weird.
I just can’t imagine dating someone decades younger than me. An underage person with a 53-year-old is just gross.
Feel ya. I was 50 and some young neighbors were hanging out one Saturday, 20-yo or so. I noticed a friend’s hands were absolutely perfect, beautiful hands. Slim, long, porcelain white.
And it grossed me out. They looked like doll’s hands, a child’s hands. Eww.
My wife, same age, doesn’t understand why I so love her hands. They have age, maturity, I love them.
Anyways, this dude freaks me out.
Valuing each other’s “mileage” is so wholesome and needs to be normalized. Too many of us are taught we have this tiny window of being pleasing to look at before the “imperfections” start getting toted up…and it isn’t true. I can’t imagine being with someone in their early 20’s. That’s still a kid in my eyes! They need to BE a kid and experience relationships with other kids where they are equals in figuring out everything together.
My partner and I are about a year apart in age and we remember all our weird awkward growing up moments together where we struggled to figure things out and each one is a treasure. They if anything get just get more and more attractive with age.
I genuinely don’t understand this thinking. The idea of partnering with someone who doesn’t share a similar life experience sounds difficult and frustrating.
I get that they’re not looking to partner with anyone and that’s the point.
Fuck vomiting. The dude needs to be monitored 24/7 and forced to take therapy.
Not how therapy works but okay
I guess fuck me for wanting to treat humans like people instead of subjecting them to the horrible conditions of prison.
But also, yes that is how therapy can work
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3578041/
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6474319/
But I guess since you think it doesn’t work that way we shouldn’t at least try. That’s definitely a better choice. Great job.
You can’t force a person into therapy for a few months and it “just work”. Mental health, especially habits and beliefs, aren’t some easy to solve problems “if only they went to therapy for a bit”. If they don’t want to change (which they won’t if they are forced into it) means it is just a waste of everyone’s time.
Can you point to where I said "just work” and “if only they went to therapy for a bit”?
I must be blind because I don’t see where I said either of those things.
It’s clear you didn’t even bother to even look at either of the articles I posted before just saying whatever you think is correct.
Stop spouting bad information because it’s what you want to believe.
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I provided links to peer reviewed articles and all you’ve got is ad hominem attacks. Fuck off.