Title and image source from this Mastodon toot by [email protected]. I even took the damn title because I couldn’t think of anything more apt.

As always, respect my trans homies or I make your pronouns was/were.

  • Allero@lemmy.today
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    8 months ago

    That topic has been a source of my contemplation for today as well.

    I often consider myself to be genderfluid, but often question myself on whether it’s an actual feeling of another gender or longing to be accepted for who I am by both women and men.

    I am caring, I am gentle, I am soft and non-competitive, I am the housekeeper, I do understand women more than men very often, I relate to their vision, yet I am a man. I am perseverant, strong, protective, I know my bearings and I grapple hard onto them. And no one will be there to tell me how to behave, what to wear, who to hang out with. Screw that.

    • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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      8 months ago

      Why should things that we should celebrate in all people be gender locked?

      I’m a woman, I have male friends like you describe and I cherish them. Their femininity or gentleness are the anything else don’t make them any less of men, they just happen to be very good men that I’m glad to know.

    • yuri@pawb.social
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      7 months ago

      I find myself wondering if I’m actually nonbinary or just absolutely sick of gendered traits being used prescriptively. Does it matter whether or not you’re nurturing if you feel like a woman?

      But then outside of gendered traits, I’m kind of at a loss for what feeling like anything looks like.

      At the very least I know I dislike traditional gender roles enough to eschew them all in favor of the “no label” enby label, and that works well enough for now.