As simple as it sounds. Sometimes our kinks are mysterious, but sometimes you can look back and see a clear origin for them, whether that be a traumatic response or a childhood hobby or something.
For me? While figuring out my bisexuality, i also played a lot of fighting games.
Seeing two female characters throw each other in Soul Calibur or Dead or Alive was one of the earliest examples of female physical contact that i got that my parents didn’t immediately try to ban so like… it stuck with me and now as an adult i get turned on by certain kinds of fights or martial arts gear.
No, actually. As far back as I can remember my first fantasies were about force, or giving up, power more than anything else. I early was able to orgasm, maybe 7 or so and really cannot remember any fantasies that did not involve D/s. It bothered me for a long time as I thought it some sort of immature sexuality, thought I needed to grow into my adult woman sexuality and enjoy taking charge myself, that was what was shown as “sexy” in popular culture and when that never happened I was frustrated, felt stuck, and not sexy. Was around 40 when I figured out I never judged anyone else for their sexual preferences, and that I needed to give myself the same consideration, and found guys who liked sexual submissiveness, some guys are into that and not abusive at all. Also figured out that part of what bothered me was that I considered submissive as “passive” and that’s not true at all either. I enjoy being active, just directed or forced. Even like fighting back and losing. It’s not passive at all.
So basically no, but it’s been a journey anyway.