This, it’s the taking it to extremes that’s making people down vote.
There’s a large difference between some light ribbing with friends/family and someone being an abusive ass.
I have a good friend who can be very easily triggered by any sort of joke that could potentially be taken as an insult. I am very sure it’s because his parents and older siblings were assholes to him growing up, but also partially he hasn’t seemingly grown/learned to not take himself so seriously all the time.
Here’s an example of a funny situation that he had extremely negative reaction to, we were having a daily short meeting where we clap at the end as a group (like 12 or so people total) and he walks up right at the end of the meeting and says, “I came just in time to catch the clap.” Laughter ensues. Feelings are hurt and I then spent my lunch break talking him down from his anger/resentment for the group members and explaining how while yes it’s sorta on him because of his poor wording, it was legit funny and people laughing about it isn’t an insult, he could have laughed along when he realized what he said.
The problem was two fold, he didn’t understand why it was funny, and he thought people were laughing AT him. Was it ABUSIVE HAZING? not at all
This, it’s the taking it to extremes that’s making people down vote.
There’s a large difference between some light ribbing with friends/family and someone being an abusive ass.
I have a good friend who can be very easily triggered by any sort of joke that could potentially be taken as an insult. I am very sure it’s because his parents and older siblings were assholes to him growing up, but also partially he hasn’t seemingly grown/learned to not take himself so seriously all the time.
Here’s an example of a funny situation that he had extremely negative reaction to, we were having a daily short meeting where we clap at the end as a group (like 12 or so people total) and he walks up right at the end of the meeting and says, “I came just in time to catch the clap.” Laughter ensues. Feelings are hurt and I then spent my lunch break talking him down from his anger/resentment for the group members and explaining how while yes it’s sorta on him because of his poor wording, it was legit funny and people laughing about it isn’t an insult, he could have laughed along when he realized what he said.
The problem was two fold, he didn’t understand why it was funny, and he thought people were laughing AT him. Was it ABUSIVE HAZING? not at all