• wizzor@sopuli.xyz
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    6 months ago

    Thanks, this entire post makes more sense now.

    Although I gotta ask, at that point is it possible OP also has some issues…?

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      6 months ago

      Very plausible. Sometimes this happens to people who grow up with family who have cluster b personality disorders. It’s like they’re conditioned to be good partners to people who have it. Ask me how I know.

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          6 months ago

          Mother had BPD, possibly ASPD, brother had NPD. I have a tendency to attract people who suffered intense childhood trauma.

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            6 months ago

            I’m picturing you going on a first date and just casually asking something like “So, childhood abuse yes or no?”

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              Often times, you don’t need to ask. You can just tell.

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              6 months ago

              Like another comment said, sometimes you can just sense it, but often enough they will just tell me. I have heard so many stories, frequently about sexual assault by a family member, from someone I had just met or barely knew.

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                6 months ago

                I have a similar thing. People just open up to me, but my parents aren’t abusive. The worst punishment they gave us was to write a research paper on why what we had done was wrong.

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      6 months ago

      Is it possible? Dude rejected a woman for having “a blown up vagina” and taking “too much birth control”… Those aren’t real things and they’re a good sign that OP has some real incel mentality. It’s quite possible he’s being an ass then when his partner reacts emotionally he says “cluster b, blown up vagina, too much birth control” and leaves.