• aidan@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I don’t think that’s homophobia as much as rude staff who ignore people who aren’t assertive. I’m not stereotypically gay/flamboyant but get ignored a lot in restaurants and stores because I’m somewhat quiet when I’m alone.

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      1 year ago

      While I appreciate where you’re coming from, I can assure you that, in this scenario, it was very much a case of homophobia. Unless everyone there grew new personalities at the same time that I came out.

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        1 year ago

        Idk that’s fair. But there is a big difference between how people treat others that I see and how they treat me at some restaurants.

    • JonVonBasslake@sopuli.xyz
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      1 year ago

      Nope, what Prussia_X86 said sounds very much like homophobia. They won’t serve his flamboyant fiance because he looks and acts “gay”, and if they knew that Prussia_X86 was gay they wouldn’t serve him either. While not all gays are as flamboyant as that his fiance sounds like, plenty are, and while not all flamboyant men aren’t gay (or even attracted to men among other genders), a good chunk are. There’s a reason a lot of people assume that flamboyant men are gay, and it’s because a lot of them are.

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        1 year ago

        What I’m saying is that there isn’t a reason to assume that’s why they were ignoring him.