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Is it me that finds it weird signing off her own tweets with her name, when her username is literally right there?
It’s just a shame the (presumably US-based) healthcare system is a clusterfuck, because that bit of expensive paper with a diagnosis on it would likely open up a whole host of avenues for exploration of the condition.
It’s just a shame the (presumably US-based) healthcare system is a clusterfuck,
Laughs in disembowelled NHS…
When the government controlling the public health service doesn’t give a shit about the actual public, especially those who it sees as “burdens”, you get more or less the same shit as if it didn’t exist at all.
I was on a waiting list for 2 years to get an autism diagnosis, and the only way around this is to go private and pay an absolute fortune (this is of course by design - deprive the NHS of its specialists in favour of for profit private clinics).
Want therapy? Wait at least 8 months. Honest about being suicidal? No need to wait that long, here are some cops to come and take you away…
My point is the op is correct no matter where you are in the world, and people who insist that self diagnosis isn’t valid seriously need to check their privilege.
I partly agree with you, but not completely. There are benefits to claiming you are ADHD, like in the UK being covered as a disability, thus employers are required to make reasonable adjustments for work comfort e.g. Noise cancelling headphones.
People without ADHD that claim to be can shew the expectations of what ADHD people go through in the wrong direction.
That said: I ended up waiting like 3 years for my diagnosis (and I had to chase those bastards every single time for a response), so if my employer didn’t trust me and wasn’t understanding of my struggles I would have been sacked by now.
That said; needing to pay £1,000s to get essential mental health care is outrageous. I’d take a reasonable self-assessment any day over expecting people to pay that.
But I wish people would stop voting for the government party that trying to convince them that immigrants are stealing jobs and they should underfund health care to keep the economy safe.
That said: I ended up waiting like 3 years for my diagnosis (and I had to chase those bastards every single time for a response),
That sounds this close ->||<- to being some Catch 22 nonsense where they use your success in managing to follow up as an excuse to claim you’re not ADHD.
I hate that about disability assessments run by those Capita bastards. The whole “well you got here okay so you can’t struggle with mobility”.
No you fucking arsewomble, it’s just threatening the means to purchase the basics and essentials is worth the physical agony it causes going to your human zoo and jumping through your arbitrary hoops, you daft walking talking fannyflap.
I hate making it personal but I can’t see how anyone would voluntarily stick at a job like that.
People without ADHD that claim to be can shew the expectations of what ADHD people go through in the wrong direction.
This is a fiction used to deprive all of us of services and accommodation (by making it ever harder to pass the gatekeeping).
Neurodiverse people are generally treated like crap in the work place and generally in society, the idea that people are making it up to gain some imaginary perks truly is ridiculous to anyone who has ever tried getting any support. You having a decent boss is one of those privileges I mentioned that you should check, because as you go on to say, if that wasn’t the case, and it isn’t for many, you’d be sacked, as many are, if they ever get employed in the first place.
As for voting, you basically describing both parties at this point, and that’s because the whole system is a sham, as is the idea that voting actually gives us any say or control. It’s only by looking outside of the bucket they have us in that we will find the way to freedom.
I lucked out - was on the wait list just before covid, and seemingly covid stopped the tests and worked through the waitlist instead.
I was diagnosed and prescribed after waiting 1.5 years. Now it seems people are expected to wait over double that.
No wonder there has been a boom in private healthcare diagnosis
My 2 year wait was over a decade ago, so looong before covid. The fact that things are worse now isn’t really surprising considering the service is now basically a hollowed out carcass with several hundred private firms picking it apart…
In germany its free but you just dont get a place anywhere. Diagnosis maybe after a year, therapy never.
And you get a blood test to see you dont use Cannabis etc, because 1+1=2
Both have “a risk for phsychosis or shizophrenia”, so combining will obviously lead to crazy dangers. Thats the state of science they are at.
I don’t use Twitter, but if people read tweets the way I do, I never even look at the username unless I’m trying to figure out if it’s the same person replying to another.
Self-diagnosis doesn’t help me get meds.
Self-diagnosis doesn’t help with relationships IMHO either and I mean that both from a personal and professional perspective.
Why you might ask?
YMMV but for me, I am an open book. Having the diagnosis meant I could talk to bosses when trying a new med, or explain to them when struggling. Knowing the diagnosis means you immediately diffuse an aspect of a challenge. For me, that has been immensely valuable.
Edit - wanted to add a common counterpoint is don’t let work know because you can’t predict people who will use your honesty against you. I will argue assholes are assholes and you can’t live your life at the possibility someone will be a dick. Most people are good people. Trust on that.
Unofficial/self diagnosis helped me in my personal relationships.
I mentioned to my partner that a doctor friend thought I had ADHD, and it really helped them not take some of my most annoying traits personally.
I get where you’re coming from with needing an official diagnosis for work accommodations, but none of your friends are really going to demand to see a doctor’s note, so why would personal relationships depend on an official diagnosis?
I get where you’re coming from with needing an official diagnosis for work accommodations, but none of your friends are really going to demand to see a doctor’s note, so why would personal relationships depend on an official diagnosis?
The same reasons as from a professional experience. Yes they aren’t going to pull the doctor’s note but neither is work IMHO. What it does is provide more weight behind your words of “hey I’m not just googling this shit. I’m not just an insufferable asshole looking to validate that I am. I’m actually working with a psychologist.”
Friends, just like coworkers, etc. care less of the diagnosis. They want to know you’re working on you because I’d argue writ large people want to see you succeed. A self-diagnosis can help but it doesn’t give you access to all the tools you may need to succeed so from the outside I would argue that official diagnosis matters. It means you now have someone else on your “team” be it a GP or a psychologist or whatever helping you navigate things.
Nobody is suggesting otherwise or defending the medical system here.
On one hand, sure just a meme. On the other, it may not be ADHD that’s causing these symptoms and getting a professional diagnosis will help with treatment regardless of what’s going on.
Unless it’s actually detected with some sort of brain scanner, it’s all questions / answers.
For example, I don’t want to get an official diagnosis, because I don’t want it in my medical records, becaus it might impede things, such as getting a driving licence.
Many doctors where I’m from, tried trearing ADHD with antidepressants. Which is like the exact opposite of what’s needed.
Yes, I’m from a weird place.
I understand why people might not want to do it, but personally getting diagnosed and starting treatment has been life changing.
Yeah you don’t need a doctor to tell you your arm is broken, but raw dogging a broken arm is hardly ideal.
This post is literally about how hard it is to get a formal diagnosis. Nobody said they don’t want to do it.
I’m trying for years now and can’t get anyone to test me. Treatment is only covered after I have an official diagnosis. And this is in a country with socialised healthcare.
Not everyone is as fortunate as you and can get a proper diagnosis and treatment.
Yeah I don’t need a doctor to tell me my arm is broken, but at least I can get a doctors appointment for that.This post is literally about how hard it is to get a formal diagnosis. Nobody said they don’t want to do it.
This post is about a doctor who makes money from her personal brand, website, books and speaking tours, telling people that getting a formal diagnosis is so hard that why should you bother. And now that you’re emotionally validated, why not visit her blog, store or youtube channel and subscribe?
I genuinely don’t know if her material is good or not, I tend to lean towards it being pabulum and watered-down schlock like literally any speaking-tour psychologist without even reading it. But lets not make any mistake about what’s being peddled here and why.
I don’t really appreciate discouraging people from getting professional care and diagnosis just because you have convinced yourself that your impersonal motivational messages are as good as personalized and in-depth care that a professional can offer.
yeah, the last time I tried to get a diagnosis it was a 6 month wait just to meet the doctor for it. And I had to make a phone call too which I avoid at all costs even if it’s detrimental because the anxiety gets to me so bad haha
I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to imply otherwise. But I wanted to share that in my personal experience it has absolutely been worth the effort
Oh good, another doctor who thinks her own book, website, blog and youtube channel are an adequate substitute for professional, personalized care and diagnosis.
“It’s really hard to get a diagnosis, so why even bother trying? Just like the video and hit the bell for notifications!”
She comes up a lot on my Threads feed even though I don’t follow her and some of her takes are… uh, iffy. I understand that some doctors actually want to help people, but there are far too many out there that seem like they’re more interested in becoming some sort of famous guru. I wish more people took their advice with a grain of salt.
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Are people having that many hurdles for official diagnosis? Genuinely asking. Mine was with my primary care doc, $100 out of pocket for the visit, and whatever the meds cost. There was one questionnaire and total took about 30min from start of visit to prescription. That said, first meds aren’t helping at all so I’ll need to go back and see what other options there are, if any.
Folks, really seriously genuinely, talk to your regular ass doctor about a diagnosis if you’re looking to get assessed. Mine just gave me the assessment for no charge because I was already there for something else.
He even said if I wasn’t happy with the results he would write me a referral to whoever and just send it to my insurance like a specialist referral, so they’d at least HELP even if it’s out of network.
After waiting several weeks for my appointment my “regular ass doctor” told me I couldn’t have adhd because I could look him in the eyes and hold a conversation. So, thanks, I’m cured?
I mean, it’s no panacea, but still worth checking before jumping straight to a potentially pricey specialist. Unfortunately some doctors are still dipshits.
I’m sorry you got invalidated by a medical professional, it’s dishearteningly an all too common experience for neurodivergent folk. I hope it didn’t turn you off the idea of treatment too bad. There are good doctors out there, who care and will listen and won’t just talk down to you.
After about two or three years since that first I’ve now made my third attempt to get help (Second one said 'you can’t have adhd because you’ve finished university and have a job).
I’ve gotten one step further, but if I am accepted to do a real evaluation it will be more than a years wait time. Public mental healthcare in Sweden is a joke. The wait time alone makes me want to just do it in private care but I can’t justify the expense in my current life situation
Possibly state-by-state, practice specific, or insurance company policies.
My doctor told me that in my state a psychiatrist has to test and diagnose. The testing was covered by my insurance (if you have a referral), but the wait list is a problem.
Wow. I had no idea that was a thing. I’m glad I asked then. Opens my mind to how hard it can be for other folks. That’s really awful.
It took me over a year to get a diagnosis from my initial inquiry with my doctor. She gave me a referral (otherwise it would not be covered by insurance), and a list of practices that did ADHD testing (not every psychiatrist does it), and I stumbled on picking a place for a few months. When I picked a place, their wait list was 3 months and I never pursued testing.
The testing process in my area takes a few hours - my wife’s took 3 on a video chat, and it took about 3 months for them to send their report to her doctor.
Cut to a year later, my old doctor had retired, and I had a new one. She gave me a new referral for testing, but cautioned me that the wait list for most places was now 6 months. Checking around with other folks in my area confirmed this. But while at that appointment, she recommended an online company, who - after a few weeks of weighing options, I did pursue, and tested/evaluated me (no video chat, just an online survey - about half was written responses - that took about 4 hours to complete), and got results back in a week. It was $180, and may have been eligible for a reimbursement from insurance, but I have ADHD, so I never bothered.And like - I guess I appreciate it. It does seem like whoever made those policies made them so that the diagnosis won’t be given lightly, but it creates issues. I sorta feel that I cheated, but my test was actually reviewed by a psychiatrist, and when I told friends of my diagnosis, the most common response was ‘Duh. You didn’t know?’ - so even though the online approach is sorta ‘cheating,’ I know that it’s definitely a warranted diagnosis in my case.
Yeah, that’s terrible. I do agree there needs to be some checks and my doc might be an annomaly in regards to dishing out pills for everything. But while the course so far hasn’t helped me, I’m grateful I don’t have to go through so much just to start. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with that.
Yes, I did.
- No one noticed for years (I am a girl and girls often have different symptoms than boys)
- I asked my psychiatrist for help with work accommodations due to concentration issues and they wanted me to go to a neuropsychologist (thousands of dollars with insurance)
- Switched to a different provider who immediately diagnosed me after a single page questionnaire. Got meds. No drug test required.
- Ended up switching to another provider for reasons - they wanted me to get tested again because they didn’t like the prior test ($$$).
- Got the diagnosis but still couldn’t refill the original meds I was on because of other health issues. Went untreated for about a year before receiving clearance from a specialist. Drug tests required monthly ($$$).
- Had to switch providers yet again for reasons - they almost made me get tested again but I somehow convinced them not to. Got meds. Drug tests every few months ($$$).
Thank you for sharing. This has been incredibly eye opening for me. I’m sorry that it’s been so rough for you.
You’re welcome. I’m glad I could provide some new information. It does suck but at least I am medicated now :)
I live in a country with socialised healthcare.
I am at the point that I am looking into diagnosis mainly to be able to get meds because just living is hard. I remember being diagnosed as kid, but I might have a mixed up memory with my brother getting diagnosed and the IQ assessment I had.
I walked into my GP, who is usually very compassionate and even understanding of mental health things telling them that, speaking about what I struggle with and they go „it is a trend diagnosis too and I personally know a man that says he doesn’t feel a difference with meds“ and give me a referral for a neuropsychologist. No expedited, no like guaranteed thing (there are a kind of slots for that). Tbf they named two good options they can recommend even if they aren’t allowed to show bias. My first „checking if we can help you“ date is on the 8th of August, and I filled their entry questionnaire over two weeks ago. Mind that is a first date, nothing in the way of diagnosis and they might say they can’t help me.
The only other option is to either pay out of pocket for it (there are loads of private only doctors for it, in fact I did accounting for one of them), which I don’t want for two reasons: not having money laying around and not wanting to just walk out with a predetermined diagnosis. I am pretty sure I have ADHD, but autism plays a role as does childhood trauma and other things. So just treating the ADHD part could be detrimental. Or go call some helpline/emergency line and tell them I am suicidal and getting institutionalised. Judging by the treatment my childhood best friend got for that, I‘ld rather not.
I am female and females present differently, so that plays a role too.
My brother didn’t get treated btw, because my mother believed the stories about ADHD vanishing with puberty and that not happening when people get meds. He is also seeking diagnosis currently.
I self diagnosed fifteen years ago but in the last two years I’ve been getting real help for it. I regret not doing so when I first came the conclusion I have ADHD. I can’t take stimulants and the first time I was given a non stimulant ADHD drug I had a severe reaction. This caused me to avoid getting real treatment and that was a huge mistake.
What kind of help have you been getting since you can’t take stimulants?
Qelbree now. It helps.
Nah, I can’t even do that because every place in my area will straight up say that they will never diagnose an adult with adhd.
Then use one of the many telemedicine doctors that actually align with modern science. How weird of them.
I’m so tired of this dumb trope. No, your self-diagnosis is not helpful. And yes, you can get diagnosed if you’re poor. There are many ways to do so, you dont have to go through a fancy psychiatrist, and the US public Healthcare system will actually pay for it.
Considering how much medication can help, uh, yeah, do those things. Its a trivial inconvenience compared to living unmedicated.
Also 5k is a lot, maybe if you’re uninsured? Hell, getting an uninsured MRI is cheaper than that. And health insurance is kind of a must for living with a disability.
Don’t like sentiments like this. I feel like it prevents people from getting the help they need.
The author is not saying don’t get self-diagnosed. They’re criticizing the healthcare system.
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I agree with you, however I want to mention (for the international crowd) that health insurance is insanely expensive. If you are disabled and can’t work (and live in a red state) you are fucked unless you have family who can help. No job = no subsidies for ACA insurance as well.
(Red state = right wing/Republican; ACA insurance is the government subsidized insurance that Obama started)
Self-diagnosis is not valid. By definition. Not even a psychiatrist can diagnose themselves. What you’re talking about is either 1) advocating for your own diagnosis or 2) self-treatment.
Both of these things are valid.
Advocate for yourself for a diagnosis from a health professional if it will unlock new treatment options. But also just look into how others with similar problems have successfully managed their problems. Consider how you could implement similar things. That’s what’s at the heart of therapy for ADHD anyway.
But diagnosis itself is only useful as a tool for describing symptoms and informing treatment. If a collection of symptoms speaks to your experience, then the only point in putting a diagnostic label on it is to say “Maybe these things that helped others with similar symptoms will also help you.” But in order to do that effectively, there also needs to be a differential diagnosis to ascertain what it is not. This is why healthcare providers need to be involved in the process. Two different things can look very similar but have very different etiologies and different treatments.
Social media needs to quit putting so much emphasis on diagnosis and more emphasis on treatment. This post should be removed for medical misinfo, but I hope people at least read the comments to see why this person seems to be such a snakeoil influencer.
For a purely semantic sake, you’re probably right. But for a colloquial sake, the term “valid” here, doesn’t mean “legally valid” or “medically valid”, but instead means “emotionally valid.” For some people, confirmation is therapeutic enough to help. Also “diagnosis” doesn’t exclusively mean “medical diagnosis”. There are many definitions to the word, and in a medical sense, it usually means what you’re describing. But “I think I have ADHD” is a diagnosis. Not a medically valid one, but something that might help me get through the day sometimes. And if that’s all I need, then it’s emotionally valid.
Being told “your self diagnosis is not valid” to some people is the same as being told “There’s nothing wrong with you.” (Because most people aren’t working on a strict legal medical definition of “diagnosis”) Emotionally validating your assessment that something is wrong can very well be what drives people to advocate for a medically valid diagnosis.
Also, saying “You don’t have ADHD unless it’s diagnosed ADHD” is wrong regardless of stance on self diagnosis. If my arm is broken, it is in fact broken, even if it hasn’t been diagnosed. Undiagnosed issues are still issues. Too many anti-self diagnosis claims come across as saying that if you don’t have a diagnosis it doesn’t exist. At most you can claim “You don’t know for sure you have ADHD unless it’s medically diagnosed”
As with all things, a self evaluation is a useful “what do I do next” step.
All emotions are valid. Even ones arising from psychosis. That doesn’t mean the experiences that create the emotions are based in reality. Stop with the wordplay. You aren’t as smart as you think you are. What you described is NOT a diagnosis - not any more than the burn marks on my toast are Jesus. Calling it so does not make it so.
If you want to take this as “There’s nothing wrong with you” then that’s on you. Maybe we will revisit the phrase, “You’re not as smart as you think you are” as evidenced by this interpretation. Funny how self-diagnosers are so willing to engage in wordplay but cannot see any other meaning here than “There’s nothing wrong with you.”
As far as the broken arm bit, WHY NOT REREAD WHAT I SAID ABOUT TREATMENT?! And let me reiterate for the self-diagnosers in the back, You aren’t as smart as you think you are. See a fuckin doctor, get a ddx, try techniques that work for you, don’t claim to have a diagnosis without one.
If this feels bad, GOOD, it should. This is hard news. But I won’t lie to you to make you feel good and sell you products like OP.
I agree with most of what you’re saying, but the way you’re presenting it is almost confrontational.
True, self-diagnostic in a strict sense isn’t a thing, but as you point out after, a collection of symptoms can speak to one’s experience. Finding this insight, in my case, was an eye opening moment because so many things in my past and in my day to day suddenly started to make sense.
Coming to terms with this realization is especially useful for people who have strong negative views on mental health issues, and driving people to “self-diagnostic”, as in recognizing that they may be neuro divergent, is a worthy effort.
It doesn’t replace actual professional help and diagnosis, but it’s a first step that needs to be encouraged.
Damn right I’m confrontational because this is literally medical misinfo being peddled by a grifter and you’re eating it right out of her hand.
The differential is what matters. We go to a professional to figure out what it’s NOT.
I think it’s ego. People probably can’t handle the fact that they aren’t as smart as they think they are and don’t want to admit that maybe they’re wrong about their “”“diagnosis”“”. But that’s just a generalization. Go to a doctor. Fuck OP.
Suppose someone was on the fence here, and willing to hear you out instead of believing OP.
Because, as I said, while I agree with most of what you said, you’re doing a big disservice to spreading your message.
Self diagnosis is fine. There’s coping mechanisms one can use without an medical diagnosis. If they see not enough one can try for an official diagnosis.
There’s no such thing as self-diagnosis. That’s my point. What you said about coping mechanisms is exactly what I said in my response: that diagnosis informs treatment, so just try different behavioral applications that help you without worrying about the diagnosis.
Holy shit, I just realized that you’re one of the mods. This is absolutely embarrassing. I can’t believe you’re spreading this garbage. STOP telling people to diagnose themselves! You’re contributing to genuine harm of the TikTok Diagnosis era.
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Okay but it isn’t always that difficult, I talked to my PCP, who made an appointment for me with the right type of dr person and then I went to that one and did whatever at that appointment
My GP just wrote me a script back in 2008 and I’ve been on Adderall ever since.
That’s nice and you’re very lucky. My PCP told me to schedule an appt with their drugs and mental health department (3 month minimum wait) and that he’d not renew the prescription I’d come to him with.
Then my next Dr was telehealth and kept warning me I needed to see her in person, but never had an appointment open.
Then my next Dr was 45 minutes late to every appointment.
Then my next Dr tried to get me to do IT troubleshooting on my end when he hadn’t joined the fucking Zoom call.
Man, even knowing how fucked 'murica is it still keeps surprising you with more fucked stuff. It just never crossed my mind that getting a diagnosis could cost money for someone.
Tell me you’re American without telling me you’re American.
The doctor I see for adhd set themselves up as a PCP for insurance purposes, so each visit is just a copay. You can find co-pays from free to $20 on the ACA Marketplace (Obamacare). Just find an insurance salesperson to help you, they are paid by the insurance companies so you don’t pay for their help!
Testing cost me a little more and it wasn’t as laborious as this makes it sound. One test was video-recorded while you clicked the mouse whenever something happened on the screen and the other was some questions about your history.
