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    3 months ago

    Someone told me once never trust the words that come before the “but” or after “honestly” and i don’t know where they heard it from but i have found it to be almost a universally true and useful trick.

    • 𝕾𝖕𝖎𝖈𝖞 𝕿𝖚𝖓𝖆@lemmy.world
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      3 months ago

      Someone told me once never trust the words that come before the “but” or after “honestly” and i don’t know where they heard it from…

      Honestly, I don’t trust this part of your statement.

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      3 months ago

      Shouldn’t it be don’t trust the words before but?" Nice thing, but bad thing. "

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        In the sense that you can ignore the words before “but”, because the words after the 'but" are their real feelings and everything before the “but” is an excuse or attempt to frame the following words more favorably, and by ignoring that part you actually get a better understanding.

        “I’m not racist, but ___”.

        “We understand and hear your concerns, but ____”.

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          Right, so you ignore the first part, because only the second part is the honest part.

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            Right, we’re on the same page. Probably my original post should have said ‘you can cut out’ rather than “don’t trust” but it’s close enough eh?