Being white as a sheet of paper and only knowing like 5 black people in total, I might not be the best one to chime in. But at least the ones I know are very much not okay with other black people using the N word. That is in Germany, might be somewhat different somewhere else.
I think black people in Germany are usually relatively recent immigrants directly from Africa and so they don’t have much culture in common with African Americans. Attitudes among African Americans vary, and a lot of that variation is related to social class. Pretty much no one wants to hear white people saying it but working-class African Americans living in segregated neighborhoods are much more likely to say it themselves than middle-class, more assimilated African Americans are. However, the attitudes of the (frequently white) people who might get you in trouble for being racist are much more uniform; the “common standard” is about what these people think.
Being white as a sheet of paper and only knowing like 5 black people in total, I might not be the best one to chime in. But at least the ones I know are very much not okay with other black people using the N word. That is in Germany, might be somewhat different somewhere else.
I think black people in Germany are usually relatively recent immigrants directly from Africa and so they don’t have much culture in common with African Americans. Attitudes among African Americans vary, and a lot of that variation is related to social class. Pretty much no one wants to hear white people saying it but working-class African Americans living in segregated neighborhoods are much more likely to say it themselves than middle-class, more assimilated African Americans are. However, the attitudes of the (frequently white) people who might get you in trouble for being racist are much more uniform; the “common standard” is about what these people think.