But I remember him saying he doesn’t even know who his wife is any more, and thinking, “Uh, you’re the one that changed.” But the way he said it made it sound like he thought she had changed, not him.

When people get married they either stop growing, grow together, or grow apart. It’s a crapshoot which is going to happen so it’s dumb to stand up in front of your friends and family and swear an oath that you’ll always be together when you can’t possibly know that