• BreadOven@lemmy.world
    47·
    22 hours ago

    What if you’re not a beautiful man?

    Edit: well so many of you have been very nice. I was sort of just being stupid (I wouldn’t think of myself as beautiful, but acceptable) but thank everyone for their very positive comments. It made me happy to see the responses.

        • ToastedPlanet@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          17·
          5 days ago

          Despite how fun, cool, and numerous their plethora of eyes are, beholders are xenophobic against everyone especially other beholders. This leaves them incapable of forming a consensus around anything let alone beauty.

      • TheSlad
        10·
        5 days ago

        Ngl, I learned what the DnD monster Beholder was before I learned what it ment to behold. I was confused by that statement well into adulthood until I finally realized that a beholder is just someone who is beholding something.

    • (⬤ᴥ⬤)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
      81·
      5 days ago

      a. eye of the beholder
      b. beauty is not a default state of being*, it requires effort. How much effort of entirely up to you, if you like yourself with makeup (and yes this does go for men too) then use makeup, if you don’t then don’t bother. do you think you’d like longer hair? shorter? colored?
      And if you think you’re so uniquely ugly as to be utterly sure that nothing you can do will make you happy you may want to interrogate those feelings, there’s probably more going on under the surface there.

      * this does not mean that someone who is unwilling or unable to put that effort in is “ugly”. this is about your perception of yourself. your perception of other is irrelevant unless asked for

      • BreadOven@lemmy.world
        2·
        22 hours ago

        I’m sure there’s things under the surface, but I don’t consider myself ugly or anything like that. I was sort of being dumb with my original reply. But thank you. I really appreciate it.

        Never tried makeup, but I always have my nails painted haha.

      • BreadOven@lemmy.world
        1·
        22 hours ago

        I saw this before it was deleted. But look at the other replies to my comment. They apply to everyone.

    • Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone
      343·
      5 days ago

      If you think you’re not going to have changes in weight and body hair as you get older just because you’ve already gone through puberty, you’re going to have a bad time.

      Btw, equating twinks to children is pretty fucked up and homophobic.

    • Mossy Feathers (They/Them)@pawb.social
      231·
      5 days ago

      Or they could just be going from a twink to a bear. Yanno, no more shaving, muscle building, things like that. They literally said, “when a beautiful man” not “a beautiful boy”.

        • Mossy Feathers (They/Them)@pawb.social
          4·
          5 days ago

          Eh, I was just trying to be charitable. I haven’t seen a lot of lgbt-phobic stuff on Lemmy (admittedly probably because I think my instance has defederated from the right-wing instances along with places like lemmygrad and hexbear) so I figured there was a >10% chance they were simply confused and possibly didn’t realize that bears are a thing.

    • (⬤ᴥ⬤)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
      201·
      5 days ago

      i’m going to be charitable and assume that you just don’t know better so here, but you should be aware that equating queer attraction to child molestation is uh. Not Good, actually.

      • Chloé 🥕@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        182·
        5 days ago

        “oh, you say you like your partner’s eyes? well do you know who else has eyes? that’s right, BABIES. yikes” (/s)

          • Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone
            7·
            5 days ago

            Hey, if a bunch of queer people tell you that you ignored the obvious on its face reading of a tweet in order to make up something homophobic to get mad about instead, maybe you should listen to them.

            You clearly have no understanding of the matter to begin with if you think twinks are children.

        • (⬤ᴥ⬤)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
          201·
          5 days ago

          love have you checked the link? attraction to fat hairy men is a cornerstone of queer culture and history.

          also when i said that comparing queer attraction to pedophilia is bad i wasn’t saying the attraction was bad (it is, don’t get me wrong), i was saying the comparison itself is bad.

          if you have somehow managed to avoid the last half decade of politics– in which case tell me who your geosomnologist is cos i want some of that– the global right-wing has been calling LGBT folks groomers for a while now. so if you make such a comparison yourself not only are you signaling to us that you’re one of them, you’re also signaling it to them too.
          i hope i don’t need to explain why that’s bad