• 1984@lemmy.today
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      9 days ago

      Those apps are toxic and will kill your confidence unless you are really good looking. Girls have hundreds of matches for showing up. But they are so shallow so they filter out most of the guys and most likely miss a lot of people they would really like. :)

      Actually I would go as far as saying that social media has made girls think they are some kind of a super creature, deserving of thousands of guys just admiring them. Lols.

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        8 days ago

        I don’t know about the ‘so shallow’, that walks pretty boldly into incel speak generalizations. The part about the imbalance of likes rings true though. At one point an app I ventured onto had thought it was a good idea to make a visible marker on a profile of how many people liked them.

        So as I’m going along it happened to try and match me with someone I know. So I messaged her for a laugh about it, and she said she had just joined a couple weeks back, boredom or some such. In the couple months I was there got something like a dozen requests, all from women in India or Phillipines, my guess they were hired by the company to help keep guys on since it was a fairly small place.

        She on the other hand had a couple hundred already. Now admittedly she’s plenty attractive, so that helps of course, but the number difference is crazy. At that point there needs to be some fast-call rejections to just have some reasonable number to look at in depth.

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          8 days ago

          It’s simply the fact that different people have different experiences on those apps, based on what they look like. It’s not a generalization and has nothing to do with incels. It has to do with human nature.

          There are in fact many people talking about how they stopped dating because of these apps. It has changed the nature of the game. It’s actually very interesting if you care to look into it.