Please, don’t misgender the mod. They identify as agender, not cis. This should be respected, even if you disagree with them.

The “core” of the advice comes from someone who’s trans, Cassie LaBelle. The mod just applied it to this specific case.

And even if the mod wasn’t from another group of people who, just like you, are also marginalised because of their gender (or lack of)… well, what matters is what is said, not who says it.

I’m cis, mind you. I’m talking about this here because it’s how this comm works: you share something, then others say if they think that you, the mod, both, or neither are right. (And because I have trans friends who often talk about stuff, I hope I can relay their views a wee bit.)

Correct me if I’m wrong, but from your comments it seems that people were actively denying that you were trans, for a long time. What the mod is doing is something else entirely; they are not saying “your experience as a trans woman is invalid!”, they’re saying “everyone has different experiences”. What was a sign for you might not be for someone else, and vice versa.

Also that mod very clearly overstepped by locking the post so no one else could criticize him for his invalidation of transfem experiences of being eggs and the signs we didn’t see. Is that okay and justified for him to be able to silence people like that?

I’d probably do the same - it’s a 3m old post, it had lots of activity, but the new activity is being combative.

If they genuinely wanted to silence you the ban wouldn’t be just two days.