Hearing about other people’s traditions is often interesting. When my wife and I got married we decided to start a Christmas Eve tradition where we’d pick a country and plan out a dinner consisting of items from it. We’re making sure we’ve got the necessary ingredients for this year’s meal and it brought to mind how comforting and fun family traditions can be.

So what does your family do this time of year (or any time of the year) that you look forward to and helps make the holiday feel like the holiday for you?

  • KittenBiscuits@lemm.ee
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    8 hours ago

    I feel this so hard. My grandma and my mom are both gone 5 years now, and we just lost my MIL last month. Hubby’s family is going to get together same as always, but I know it just won’t be the same and wonder how long they’ll keep it up.

    We’ve no kids of our own, and I’ve tried starting a new tradition for just us here and there, but he’s always had pretty bad holiday anxiety so he’s kind of hard to get into the spirit.

    I can’t bring myself to even put a tree up anymore.

    I’m hoping I have not too many more numb years ahead and will find a jolly group with young blood and young at heart that we can glom onto.

    • southsamurai
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      7 hours ago

      I don’t doubt that you’ll find a path to a good Christmas, most people do. It isn’t like we’re unique in having to transition to a new way of things as the older generation leaves us. That numbness might take longer to fade, but if we stay open to the new, it can.

      As a point towards that, Thanksgiving at least has turned into a new tradition for us. My best friend hosts, and it’s all about togetherness.

      I keep hoping something will stick for Christmas. Maybe as our kid reaches adulthood, something will form up, that’s what I’m holding onto to keep the current grinchness at bay.