What the fuck actual fuck BBC???
What is being further normalised, in big part by articles like this, is rape culture.
Fantasies have always existed, as has the requirement for consent for an act to be sex rather than rape. End of.
Seriously, she was drugged by her husband and raped by over 70 men, that never has been, never will be motherfucking “normal”, what the actual fuck?!?!?!? And who the fuck is not only thinking up the above garbage, but also the people above them reading it and approving it for publication?! (Edit, in case it isn’t clear: This is rhetorical, none of this is really surprising, the media’s influence on rape culture is pretty well established, and the BBC have a pretty consistent history of platforming and covering up for known rapists)
Honestly, the reaction to this case (including any and all variation of “not all men”, like “it’s borderline offensive that people think less of men”, as if A. this is happening in a vacuum and B. men are the real victims here and need to be prioritised, hint: you fucking don’t, call in your peers or shut the fuck up, this isn’t about you. If you feel personally attacked by any of this, you’re telling on yourself) has been as enraging and telling of our rotten society as the case itself.
Fuck this shit.
Porn has issues, not asking for consent is pure scumfuckery.
Imma need more than vague nurture concerns before reconsidering just smiting Gomorrah.
If there’s no prior consent it doesn’t happen. As much as a step up in education is needed were fast getting to a point where “I didn’t know I couldn’t do that” doesn’t pass the pub test.
Even if meeting up with a couple explicitly for sex; the very least that should happen before hand is a conversation, in person, to make sure everyone is onboard (and you aren’t about to get in bed with crazies). How you rock up to someone house with a woman already unconscious and think “yeah cool, this all seems above board” is wild.
This article is pretty over the place ranging from porn habits to Tate. Though the quote of randoms about how they think less of men due to events like this is borderline offensive, it makes a point. If society allows men like this to go unpunished, men cop a drop in regard because of it. Which is something to strive against.
Porn (imo) shouldn’t come into beyond the “desire” aspect the writer covered. You’re not banging a porn star very likely, so there’s no grounds to assume they’re going to be into porn star level sex acts. That assumption doesn’t change before a conversation or two and enthusiastic assent at least. If too many people decline then it’s probably time to reconsider your porn intake.