I have a bad habit of getting into fights online and then not having enough energy for a high-intensity reply, or getting the resources needed to keep going, so I’ll clear the notification and then just never go back to it.
I know it probably gives troll vibes sometimes which I hate but… I just remind myself that this isn’t something I’m doing maliciously and try to forgive myself.
Same. I see the notifications and think “Oh no, here it comes…”
Usually it’s surprisingly positive, but I skim the negative ones, and even think to myself “Yes, I do on fact mean exactly that”, but I can’t be arsed to respond.
There’s actually a whole thing another being ADHD and starting or engaging in fights online. (Disclosure: I’m having some fog and can’t remember if this is one of the trustworthy sites, but here is a link talking about it.
Basically, it’s theorized that if the good brain chemicals are going to happen when we engage (including getting angry) then we’re more likely to engage. If not, it’s harder to be bothered.
It’s why, even though I know I’m pressing more than i need to be, I engaged elsewhere on lemmy earlier today. I know that. I often sit for a moment or two and ask myself, “is this antagonistic to be antagonistic, or am I hoping this will actually make a point? Am I trying to provide more information for passersby, or am I just sure I’m “right” and trying to hammer that?”
To add to what you said, there’s this point, at least for me, where I hit a conversation (or a fight or anything) and I’ll see the reply, and maybe I could answer, but the brain has determined there is nothing to be gained from going further so I’m just not allowed to do it!
TL;DR So sorry for such a long answer. If brain decides there’s not enough stimulation to justify the next-to-no-effort of typing a reply, the typing will not happen.
I have a bad habit of getting into fights online and then not having enough energy for a high-intensity reply, or getting the resources needed to keep going, so I’ll clear the notification and then just never go back to it.
I know it probably gives troll vibes sometimes which I hate but… I just remind myself that this isn’t something I’m doing maliciously and try to forgive myself.
Same. I see the notifications and think “Oh no, here it comes…”
Usually it’s surprisingly positive, but I skim the negative ones, and even think to myself “Yes, I do on fact mean exactly that”, but I can’t be arsed to respond.
ADHD-friendly TL;DR at the bottom.
There’s actually a whole thing another being ADHD and starting or engaging in fights online. (Disclosure: I’m having some fog and can’t remember if this is one of the trustworthy sites, but here is a link talking about it.
Basically, it’s theorized that if the good brain chemicals are going to happen when we engage (including getting angry) then we’re more likely to engage. If not, it’s harder to be bothered.
It’s why, even though I know I’m pressing more than i need to be, I engaged elsewhere on lemmy earlier today. I know that. I often sit for a moment or two and ask myself, “is this antagonistic to be antagonistic, or am I hoping this will actually make a point? Am I trying to provide more information for passersby, or am I just sure I’m “right” and trying to hammer that?”
To add to what you said, there’s this point, at least for me, where I hit a conversation (or a fight or anything) and I’ll see the reply, and maybe I could answer, but the brain has determined there is nothing to be gained from going further so I’m just not allowed to do it!
TL;DR So sorry for such a long answer. If brain decides there’s not enough stimulation to justify the next-to-no-effort of typing a reply, the typing will not happen.