Irl - going places? Blergh. And I am very privileged to work from home. Do you make friends at like the grocery store? I am confused about this, genuinely
Online? Seeing people regularly? I don’t understand how people do this. I just kind of browse popular feed and pop in to what looks interesting. But even when I do look into communities more regularly I don’t like notice people. Do you? I’m seriously asking. Is there a platform where this makes more sense? Back when I used reddit I was more engrained to certain communities but there were so many users everyone felt anonymous. Here there are less users but still enough that people feel anonymous.
for the record I do have autism. I’m also a counselor, funny enough. When people ask me how to make friends I tell them things generally along your advice: to go to places where they can meet more people ideally along lines with common interests. If they really want to focus on this though I usually refer out as this clearly isn’t my strength
irl - I generally find going regularly to something that aligns with your interests helps. eg, taking a hobby class, volunteering, interest-related clubs. but it takes a lot of work to be consistent and doesn’t happen straight away! and you have to go out of your way to interact a lot of the time.
On one hand I feel hypocritical because again this is very similar to the advice I give people as a counselor and yet I don’t do it. On the other hand I feel validated in that I apparently am not giving people shitty advice, haha
Common interests and consistency. If you’re seeing them regularly and have similar interests it just ends up happening.
Therein lies the issue
Irl - going places? Blergh. And I am very privileged to work from home. Do you make friends at like the grocery store? I am confused about this, genuinely
Online? Seeing people regularly? I don’t understand how people do this. I just kind of browse popular feed and pop in to what looks interesting. But even when I do look into communities more regularly I don’t like notice people. Do you? I’m seriously asking. Is there a platform where this makes more sense? Back when I used reddit I was more engrained to certain communities but there were so many users everyone felt anonymous. Here there are less users but still enough that people feel anonymous.
for the record I do have autism. I’m also a counselor, funny enough. When people ask me how to make friends I tell them things generally along your advice: to go to places where they can meet more people ideally along lines with common interests. If they really want to focus on this though I usually refer out as this clearly isn’t my strength
irl - I generally find going regularly to something that aligns with your interests helps. eg, taking a hobby class, volunteering, interest-related clubs. but it takes a lot of work to be consistent and doesn’t happen straight away! and you have to go out of your way to interact a lot of the time.
On one hand I feel hypocritical because again this is very similar to the advice I give people as a counselor and yet I don’t do it. On the other hand I feel validated in that I apparently am not giving people shitty advice, haha