Kids suck a lot of the time. All parents are forbidden to express their frustrations without being judged harshly. Being a parent doesn’t make you a perfect person with infinite patience and the expectation that it should needs to die.
The expectation however needs to remain “you need to be better tomorrow than you were today which should be better than yesterday” with the caveat that if you didn’t hit that you were at least trying OR it’s your goal.
There’s no excuse for giving up on being better for your kid.
I mean I think we are all trying to be better as parents than our parents were or than we were yesterday, but it’s important I think to be real about the fact that that is aspirational and we are going to make mistakes. More important than keeping high expectations I think is to own your mistakes, and let your kids see you do it.
There is a time and a place and you don’t want to undermine your own authority or that of your co parent if you have one, but showing what it means to take responsibility is just as important as trying to always do better I think.
Kids suck a lot of the time. All parents are forbidden to express their frustrations without being judged harshly. Being a parent doesn’t make you a perfect person with infinite patience and the expectation that it should needs to die.
The expectation however needs to remain “you need to be better tomorrow than you were today which should be better than yesterday” with the caveat that if you didn’t hit that you were at least trying OR it’s your goal.
There’s no excuse for giving up on being better for your kid.
I mean I think we are all trying to be better as parents than our parents were or than we were yesterday, but it’s important I think to be real about the fact that that is aspirational and we are going to make mistakes. More important than keeping high expectations I think is to own your mistakes, and let your kids see you do it.
There is a time and a place and you don’t want to undermine your own authority or that of your co parent if you have one, but showing what it means to take responsibility is just as important as trying to always do better I think.