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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Resident_Plastic_957 on 2023-06-22 17:50:42+00:00.

Me and my wife went through a messy divorce when our son Joshua (16M) was 14 and he’d also had just came out around then and I know it was a really stressful time for him. Like a lot kids he acted out some and then he settled down some.

His mom my ex kinda got a new boyfriend Derek pretty quickly and he’s not to fond of Derek and spends alot of time with me which his mom hates. She and Derek married Saturday… in the few months leading up to it Joshua has been acting out some. Like skipping classes with his boyfriend ,missing football practice, arguing with his mom etc. Derek really wanted a no kids wedding but my ex really wanted Joshua there and he relented for Joshua to come. Joshua didnt want to go and his mom said he could bring his boyfriend if he behaved which he agreed to.

I told my ex that that was unfair seeing as Joshua didn’t want to go in the first he should be allowed to have a person there regardless cause he was having a hard time with this. Of course she didn’t listen. Well Joshua was on his last straw when they went tux shopping and he threw a fit about have to wear one. ( He’s one of those boys who wears nothing but sweats) She promptly banned him from bring his boyfriend.

Joshua upset came to stay with me last week. His mom called everyday telling me that the wedding was that Saturday and she needed Joshua to come back home. I mostly ignored her. Day of Joshua begged me not to make him go and I didn’t even after his mom called pissed and yelling about it. Now I’ve been getting calls from my ex inlwas about they couldn’t believe I ruined my ex’s wedding like that by not letting her have her son there and how embarrassing it was for her. AITA?