Shit where do you work man? I need to get me one of those jobs, because, while I just keep to my own life, it seems the same shit goes on, because the assholes never really grow up. They just age. No matter where you go.
So, believe me when I say you just need to put yourself out there, in social spaces, and meet girls/boys face to face, and just be yourself. Don’t put on a false face, a “front.” Just be you.
It helps to go to places, or events, that coincide with your personality type.
Don’t give up, don’t take every rejection as a death sentence.
My experience after graduating from high school in 07 and college in 11 is that uh… no, the vast majority of odd jobs, part time jobs I worked till getting a ‘real’ job…
No, no, the vast majority of basically low wage workers are still mentally in high school, still acting just as immature, still being childish, rude and bullying people, still constantly seeking to create situations of petty drama, still pressuring people into hazing rituals.
Does not matter how old they are.
I’ve seen 45 year old men literally ‘flex’ on younger coworkers to assert dominance, like literally puff themselves up and flex to appear larger, while arguing with or belittling them.
Your advice is generally good advice, but it is far from guaranteed to ensure you will not be surrounded by immature buffoons, and ostracized when you do not partake in their foolishness.
Ah, I was drinking last night, and didn’t read the post well enough.
True, I’ve been in that work situation, where I didn’t fit in, and it was Hell. I got railroaded out of a job at a rural Southern hospital for making friends with a black coworker. I’m a white male. I was “warned” about my new friend by multiple older white coworkers, some department heads. When that didn’t work, I was consistently set up to fail by my boss. I thought about taking it to HR, and threatening to contact the ACLU and the NAACP, but I didn’t want crosses burning in my yard, so I quit.
And yeah, some people never make it out of High School. They’ll always be teenagers, emotionally.
I hope you find a job and a group you click with, sincerely. Best of luck.
Oh I did find such jobs, but then I managed to get asssulted in a mugging, lost my ids and cards and phone, ended up hospitalized, lost my job, got evicted, ended up homeless for about two years.
On the bright side of that, managed to get SSDI payments and recently set myself up with actual doctors after having to wait for the medicare application window thing, as well as… at least a 6 month lease at a roach motel.
Now I get to do PT for … 6 months to a year? And maybe I can walk without a cane again, and use my wrist for more than 20 minutes at a time without it excruciatingly seizing up.
It might be taboo to say it, but I was about to mention this. I worked in all kinds of job, and from my experience, jobs that are blue collar or high school educated tend to have these kind of shit stirrers. It is like they are still in school and never grew up. But affluent professions are not immune to having assholes either. The more affluent folks are not into bullying and shaming people, but many of them are snob.
Yeah, that sucks, especially when you’re in high school, and right after.
But after, when you get out the real world, that shit lessens, and you won’t care.
Shit where do you work man? I need to get me one of those jobs, because, while I just keep to my own life, it seems the same shit goes on, because the assholes never really grow up. They just age. No matter where you go.
I’m an old man.
So, believe me when I say you just need to put yourself out there, in social spaces, and meet girls/boys face to face, and just be yourself. Don’t put on a false face, a “front.” Just be you.
It helps to go to places, or events, that coincide with your personality type.
Don’t give up, don’t take every rejection as a death sentence.
You can do this.
My experience after graduating from high school in 07 and college in 11 is that uh… no, the vast majority of odd jobs, part time jobs I worked till getting a ‘real’ job…
No, no, the vast majority of basically low wage workers are still mentally in high school, still acting just as immature, still being childish, rude and bullying people, still constantly seeking to create situations of petty drama, still pressuring people into hazing rituals.
Does not matter how old they are.
I’ve seen 45 year old men literally ‘flex’ on younger coworkers to assert dominance, like literally puff themselves up and flex to appear larger, while arguing with or belittling them.
Your advice is generally good advice, but it is far from guaranteed to ensure you will not be surrounded by immature buffoons, and ostracized when you do not partake in their foolishness.
Ah, I was drinking last night, and didn’t read the post well enough.
True, I’ve been in that work situation, where I didn’t fit in, and it was Hell. I got railroaded out of a job at a rural Southern hospital for making friends with a black coworker. I’m a white male. I was “warned” about my new friend by multiple older white coworkers, some department heads. When that didn’t work, I was consistently set up to fail by my boss. I thought about taking it to HR, and threatening to contact the ACLU and the NAACP, but I didn’t want crosses burning in my yard, so I quit.
And yeah, some people never make it out of High School. They’ll always be teenagers, emotionally.
I hope you find a job and a group you click with, sincerely. Best of luck.
Oh I did find such jobs, but then I managed to get asssulted in a mugging, lost my ids and cards and phone, ended up hospitalized, lost my job, got evicted, ended up homeless for about two years.
On the bright side of that, managed to get SSDI payments and recently set myself up with actual doctors after having to wait for the medicare application window thing, as well as… at least a 6 month lease at a roach motel.
Now I get to do PT for … 6 months to a year? And maybe I can walk without a cane again, and use my wrist for more than 20 minutes at a time without it excruciatingly seizing up.
Damn, sorry to hear that. Hope you feel better. Banana pudding helps.
… can’t say I’ve ever had banana pudding.
Oh my God… get some, now. It’s culinary ecstasy.
Any correlation with the people’s socioeconomic background?
It might be taboo to say it, but I was about to mention this. I worked in all kinds of job, and from my experience, jobs that are blue collar or high school educated tend to have these kind of shit stirrers. It is like they are still in school and never grew up. But affluent professions are not immune to having assholes either. The more affluent folks are not into bullying and shaming people, but many of them are snob.
Similar experience, but for me it’s engineering company with only people with masters, vs sports association with full diversity of backgrounds.
Just tell them that they’re acting like assholes and they’ll soon stop bothering you
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