For example I as Central American man Really prefer to mostly watch JAV instead of American porn. Simply because I think it’s hot to see JAV actress like 早川瑞希(Mizuki Hayakawa) or 渋谷ひとみ (Hitomi Shibuya) humilate and degrade submissive men.

But when it comes to datingI prefer to date central American women most of the time because it’s alot easier for me to get along well with them simply because we share the same culture norms, the shame language and are more likely to have the same value as me too. I’m also not sexually submissive in real life.

  • Taiatari@lemmynsfw.com
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    There’s A LOT more to dating than sexual attraction and kink. As long as you are aware what is a phantasy, interest or curiosity you are good. Porn is first and foremost a form of entertainment and a performance. Being interested in watching it is one thing, dating another. Similar to watching tennis but having no desire to play it yourself.

    Porn consumption is however something to be done in moderation where excessive use can lead to unwanted side effects which go past the intended use. But that is the same as with any other form of consumption, too much can be bad but doesn’t have to be.

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    That’s fine, but don’t be surprised if you can’t get it up when your sex life doesn’t match your porn consumption.

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      If I met an Asian woman who has the same hobbies and interests as me then I would date her. But I don’t think that I will ever tell my future girlfriend that I have a humiliation kink because I’m scared she will judge me for it and tell all my friends and family that I’m into that.

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        Don’t bring it up on the first date, but if you find yourself in a long healthy relationship, it will likely be something you share and can enjoy together. Good luck

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          I guess if I find myself in a long healthy relationship. I should just embrace the fact that I’m a sexually submissive man. Instead of trying to suppress my sexual desires.

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            I think really it’s something you need to make peace with, but it can be hard to do without some support. It takes a lot of energy to suppress feelings like that, if it’s something you really enjoy, you’d be hiding yourself from your partner and watching it behind their back etc. Just thinking about that scenario is exhausting, it’s filled with shame and guilt. Be yourself. Enjoy your life. Get humiliated by women who enjoy the pleasure you get from it

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        There are LOTS of girls who especially want a submissive man. If you’re really into that, you might consider a dating site or group that specializes in kink.

        I know it sounds scary but kink groups are really super friendly in my experience. (I do shibari, but it applies to other kinks as well.) Most of the people there are just excited to meet someone else that’s into the same stuff as them.

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        Isn’t that exactly the point, lol

        You’re into humiliation, and would be getting humiliated

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          Yeah but that’s just to extreme. I only like having hot women step on me, spit on me, put me on a leash, lock me in chastity and I like being ordered to eat food that she step on and I like when she tells that I’m a pathetic beta male loser who only purpose in life is to serve her.

          I’m not into pegging, cuckolding, and public humiliation because that’s just to extreme for me.

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    Not really, not for me.

    However, I have to say that I stopped using porn a while back, and that I don’t really have a “type”. It isn’t that I wouldn’t ever date the kind of women I used to like in porn, it’s that my tastes in what I find attractive are so varied, that it was never difficult to find the kind of women I’m attracted to.

    And I would watch porn that wasn’t really arousing just out of curiosity too. Like, I’m vanilla as hell, but it’s interesting to see some of the kink content. So, again, I’m an outlier since porn wasn’t always something I would watch for arousal, even back when I did use porn for that in general.

    My vague preference in porn was that the female performers be decent at pretending to have fun, not just fake moan. I’m not necessarily talking about them pretending to enjoy the sex, it was always pretty obvious that most porn was heavily edited, which meant a lot of breaks in the action. But that they gave a performance where they seemed to be there because making the porn was something that they liked doing.

    I was aware that most of them didn’t, but I could still enjoy the material if the performers, specifically the women, acted like the process was more than just a job.

    In that regard, I do want partners like I prefer porn. I want partners that are into the sex for its own sake, as a form of pleasure and mutual fun, not just doing it because they think they’re supposed to. My only real kink is enthusiastic consent.

    So, when a performer was laughing, or otherwise indicating fun, it flipped that switch for me in a way that their looks wouldn’t matter, even if they weren’t attractive otherwise.

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    I’m not straight, but I imagine that it would be mostly the same.

    I love my partner very much, and wouldn’t change a thing about him. We support each other in being better people. Together we have ambitions about what we want to do with our together futures. And the sex is amazing.

    The kind of porn I like would make it seem that I shouldn’t be attracted to him at all, but porn is only about the immediate moment of physical satisfaction. Furthermore, there’s some rather disturbing things that I can jerk it to that I would be horrified if a real person did that.

    It’s important to be able to separate reality from fiction.