No, I think calling someone a narcissist when you have a strong understanding of the medical meaning is okay, and I wouldn’t consider it a slur in those cases. As you’ll see in the other threads, I took issue with someone describing neurotypical behaviour as narcissistic.

I’m sorry but you don’t get to have your cake and eat it friend.

No, that’s not the core of NPD. The core of NPD is lack of healthy ego development. This results of struggles with self esteem and relating to others. Most commonly by creating a false ego which needs to be bigger than a regular one because it’s brittle and breaks easily.

Thats literally what I’m saying. The presentation of NPD would be considered aberrant in terms of “normal” social etiquette same as any other personality disorder and how NPD presents is a reaction to the deeper struggles of an NPD sufferer and proper ego development can be stunted by outside conditions. I’m not trying to define NPD, I’m just saying how it presents its output is reliant on the condition that is created externally. The process you described, and that same flow chart of how the symptoms present is present in every personality disorder including alcoholism hence I find your cherry picking of when to apply the slur hammer kinda weird.

Thank you. Am I also correct to assume that when you see anti-BPD hate speech, you feel a dread in the pit of your stomach that this speech is going to embolden someone to abuse a borderline?

Nobody calls it that and very few know about it or understand it outside of sufferers and relatives so it’s more about the feeling i see when people talk flippantly about the struggles of people with personality disorders they don’t understand. Silent disability and all that.

That’s cool, I won’t pretend to understand the nuances of what non binary people suffer relative to my own as a binary trans person but ngl that final paragraph didn’t make a whole lot of sense to me.

Either way have a good one I’m disengaging now

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