• Rudee@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    Impostor syndrome with a side of my-family-is-controlling-my-life-even-though-I-don’t-live-with-them-anymore (this feels like there’d be a single word for this in German or a similar language)

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      my-family-is-controlling-my-life-even-though-I-don’t-live-with-them-anymore

      I suspect that this is more common than we realize. There are the obvious cases, like you and me, but since I got clear I’ve realized that it frequently doesn’t really look controlling to an outsider and that even from inside it can look and feel normal without actually leaving you free to be yourself. Now that I know what to look for, I see a lot of people living their lives to family (and other) standards that do not allow for personal growth.

      Good luck on your journey!

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      my-family-is-controlling-my-life-even-though-I-don’t-live-with-them-anymore

      Distanzfamilienkontrollsystem. You are welcome.

  • valentinesmith@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    I’ll resume my Masters next year and recently started reading The Will to Change by Bell Hooks

    and I’m flabbergasted that there is literature about topics I felt like I was developing a personal opinion about :D Otherwise I’m struggling with a person in my friend group who feels so disinterested in everything and mostly just annoyed and combative. As I usually game in my free time it’s ridiculous to me to have such an incredibly bad mood in your free time and when spending time with friends for MONTHS. rant over

  • Smk@lemmy.ca
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    My 3 years old child seems to be doing social anxiety. He doesn’t want to play with other children, he is scared of too much noise, he hates daycare and he never talks there because he is too shy. I’m heartbroken by this and I’m not sure how to help him out.