This also with fucking hearing aids. Like yeah it sucks, but wear them - they help. I’m sick of yelling at people with clear hearing issues who are not wearing anything to help.
As a person with a hearing impairment, I can unfortunately confirm that they’re not all simply solved with hearing aids. OP has big “this liar walked from the handicap spot” energy.
Also they’re far more expensive than glasses. In college mine broke and I could barely afford food so I went without until I could afford to fix them a few years later.
There’s also the fact that at times they’re exhausting to wear and people get pissed if you have to take them out or turn them off.
Hearing aids aren’t like normal glasses where they just fix the problem no issue. I love my local librarians for just writing stuff down when I say I can’t hear. It’s quick and convenient.
I hadn’t considered that, but that does go to add a little doubt to my annoyance with my boomer neighbour… I guess you never can tell. Thanks for the context
I’ll add that hearing aids can be tiring and uncomfortable to wear. I often take mine off after work because I need a break after 9 hours of wearing them. My neighbors may find it inconvenient, but it’s what I need to do for my comfort.
Also hearing aids really aren’t cheap. There was a decent period of time I just couldn’t drop the money to fix or replace mine after they broke
As someone with ADHD, I find that if I’m focused on something and someone tries to get my attention, I’ll often need to ask them to repeat themselves. Not because I didn’t hear them, but I couldn’t comprehend them. It’s not about the sound entering my ears, it’s about my brain not being ‘ready’ to take in information from a different source so suddenly.
Whoa, I’ve been having this exact problem for years and it’s been troubling me, especially in my new job. I keep needing to ask people to repeat themselves unless I’m facing them, focused on them, and within a short distance of them. We also use earpieces at work and I’m sometimes struggling to hear what I’m being told through them. It can cause embarrassment.
I’ve never been diagnosed with ADHD nor do I have any diagnosed hearing problems. I’ve always wondered if its just related to my shy personality or if I have poor active listening skills, but your comment made me think that I should speak to someone about it.
So, fun fact: the human brain cannot multitask. Some are good at switching tasks quickly, their minds well adjusted for doing so. Others, like you and I, have trouble switching tasks quickly. It’s not something you can train or get better at, it’s just a quirk of how your brain developed. There’s no shame in it, either. But now that you’re aware of what the issue is, you can take steps to work around it.
Talking to a mental health professional is a good step, but be wary of getting put on any drugs. Sometimes the best thing you can do is be aware of any issues and work around them. That being said, for me, a stimulant is the perfect solution to some of my ADHD related issues, others are deeply ingrained behaviors that need to be trained out.
No drug is suddenly going to solve all your problems. They can help with aspects, but be wary of side effects. Not just physical ones, either.
Oh that’s totally normal. Or like when you say “pardon?” but by the time you’re finished asking, the sound has rattled around in your ears long enough for your brain to have made sense of it, then you’re like “sorry, nevermind, it’s on the top shelf” while they’re in the middle of clarifying.
Has this with my ex, both of us. Learned to always start with “Hey (name)”, then wait the 5-15 seconds for us to process whatever we were doing and go “Hm?” before actually saying the thing.
Same here. For me it’s like when I can recognize other languages based off the sound or the way the written language looks. Like I know your speaking English but have no idea what was said especially with directions sometimes
Yeah hearing aids have gotten a lot better at it since I started wearing them but still they make it harder to separate the noises. Especially the person I’m talking to vs the people having a conversation behind me.
Fair, but I was talking about cases where someone is trying to communicate, but won’t wear a device to help them. Like my brother in law. A great storyteller and a hoot to have around, but misses a lot of context because he refuses to wear hearing aids
This also with fucking hearing aids. Like yeah it sucks, but wear them - they help. I’m sick of yelling at people with clear hearing issues who are not wearing anything to help.
I hear fine, I just have an issue understanding human speech. It just sounds like noise sometimes.
As a person with a hearing impairment, I can unfortunately confirm that they’re not all simply solved with hearing aids. OP has big “this liar walked from the handicap spot” energy.
Also they’re far more expensive than glasses. In college mine broke and I could barely afford food so I went without until I could afford to fix them a few years later.
There’s also the fact that at times they’re exhausting to wear and people get pissed if you have to take them out or turn them off.
Hearing aids aren’t like normal glasses where they just fix the problem no issue. I love my local librarians for just writing stuff down when I say I can’t hear. It’s quick and convenient.
I hadn’t considered that, but that does go to add a little doubt to my annoyance with my boomer neighbour… I guess you never can tell. Thanks for the context
I’ll add that hearing aids can be tiring and uncomfortable to wear. I often take mine off after work because I need a break after 9 hours of wearing them. My neighbors may find it inconvenient, but it’s what I need to do for my comfort.
Also hearing aids really aren’t cheap. There was a decent period of time I just couldn’t drop the money to fix or replace mine after they broke
As someone with ADHD, I find that if I’m focused on something and someone tries to get my attention, I’ll often need to ask them to repeat themselves. Not because I didn’t hear them, but I couldn’t comprehend them. It’s not about the sound entering my ears, it’s about my brain not being ‘ready’ to take in information from a different source so suddenly.
Whoa, I’ve been having this exact problem for years and it’s been troubling me, especially in my new job. I keep needing to ask people to repeat themselves unless I’m facing them, focused on them, and within a short distance of them. We also use earpieces at work and I’m sometimes struggling to hear what I’m being told through them. It can cause embarrassment.
I’ve never been diagnosed with ADHD nor do I have any diagnosed hearing problems. I’ve always wondered if its just related to my shy personality or if I have poor active listening skills, but your comment made me think that I should speak to someone about it.
So, fun fact: the human brain cannot multitask. Some are good at switching tasks quickly, their minds well adjusted for doing so. Others, like you and I, have trouble switching tasks quickly. It’s not something you can train or get better at, it’s just a quirk of how your brain developed. There’s no shame in it, either. But now that you’re aware of what the issue is, you can take steps to work around it.
Talking to a mental health professional is a good step, but be wary of getting put on any drugs. Sometimes the best thing you can do is be aware of any issues and work around them. That being said, for me, a stimulant is the perfect solution to some of my ADHD related issues, others are deeply ingrained behaviors that need to be trained out.
No drug is suddenly going to solve all your problems. They can help with aspects, but be wary of side effects. Not just physical ones, either.
Oh that’s totally normal. Or like when you say “pardon?” but by the time you’re finished asking, the sound has rattled around in your ears long enough for your brain to have made sense of it, then you’re like “sorry, nevermind, it’s on the top shelf” while they’re in the middle of clarifying.
Has this with my ex, both of us. Learned to always start with “Hey (name)”, then wait the 5-15 seconds for us to process whatever we were doing and go “Hm?” before actually saying the thing.
Same here. For me it’s like when I can recognize other languages based off the sound or the way the written language looks. Like I know your speaking English but have no idea what was said especially with directions sometimes
The reasons I’ve heard (hah) are:
My partners grandma does this… literally takes 1 min to put in (and it’s not like she’s got a lot going on anyway)
Some people like tuning out everything around them
Others can have a distinct problem picking voices out of surrounding noise.
Yeah hearing aids have gotten a lot better at it since I started wearing them but still they make it harder to separate the noises. Especially the person I’m talking to vs the people having a conversation behind me.
Edit: sorry replied to the wrong person.
Fair, but I was talking about cases where someone is trying to communicate, but won’t wear a device to help them. Like my brother in law. A great storyteller and a hoot to have around, but misses a lot of context because he refuses to wear hearing aids