• agentshags
    7·
    1 year ago

    If are so unhappy with your wife you created a Lemmy community to complain, you might want to look into making her your ex wife.

    Just sayin’

    • ratinatrapOPM
      4·
      1 year ago

      Like I said in another comment, I didn’t expect this level of attention/interaction in this community. Guess I’m still in reddit mindset where this community would have stayed alone for years with nobody noticing.

      • Kecessa
        3·
        1 year ago

        I didn’t expect this level of attention/interaction

        So? If you felt the need to create this community in the first place, no matter if you’ve got a public or not, then something’s wrong and it won’t be solved by writing about it on the internet.

  • McNasty
    6·
    1 year ago

    Your daughter will remember more than your wife imagines.

  • SplatterGasp
    4·
    1 year ago

    Hey man, relationships that have ended but the people haven’t parted ways is rough. Particularly rough on your daughter. Take it from me, the child of 2 people that dispised each other; it really messes you up for decades. I’m in therapy discussing this stuff every week. It’s really hard.

    You need to do what’s best for your daughter. Staying together is clearly not the answer. It’s done for you and your wife. It’s never better for the child to live it a broken home, with tension between parents. Even if you think you cover it up from her 100%, it will affect her for years to come.

    Separate from your wife, you’ll be happier and it will be doing your daughters mental health a huge benefit

    • ratinatrapOPM
      5·
      1 year ago

      I’m on a work visa, and if I get divorced now, she will have to go back along with my daughter. I should either go back, get a new job there, and try to rebuild from scratch what I’ve built over 10 years, or stay here and get to meet my daughter once a year.

      • SplatterGasp
        3·
        1 year ago

        Oh man, that is absolutely rough. I’m really sorry. I shouldn’t have critised not knowing your position, I’m sorry.

        I hope it works out for you, perhaps seeking some professional help for a healthy outlet to your pain may help. I’m not sure if Lemmy has DMs, but hit me up if you want to chat too.

        Good luck to you, brother

        • ratinatrapOPM
          2·
          1 year ago

          Thanks, and no problem. I’m sort of making fun of myself, and I do deserve criticism for the way I framed some of the posts.