Haha wtf I feel (in)famous

Thank you. I’ll look at cleaning my filters and such. It’s only a year old, but we often buy groceries like onions, and I have a 7yo who sometimes makes a mess, and my wife keeps the windows open even when it rains, so there’s all sorts of reasons for it to get stinky.

I’m going to delete some comments/posts and lock the others while I consider what I want to do with this community. Thanks for all your advice.

Yeah that’s my biggest concern.

Thank you

I’ve started listening to your recommendation on eggshells, and it’s so far bang on. I’m hoping to hear some solutions down the line. Thank you for that book.

Thanks for the advice. I can’t find a way to make it private, but I’ve made the community mod only. I’m still thinking over whether to delete this community or lock it and keep using it like a journal. May be I’ll try your suggestion for a few days and see how that works.

I don’t know where you get that I hate women. I hate this one person who is making my life miserable. Would you say the same thing if I’m a woman and say I hate my husband because he does all these things?

Thanks, and no problem. I’m sort of making fun of myself, and I do deserve criticism for the way I framed some of the posts.

Yeah I think I’ll just delete this community. Didn’t really expect this.

You look at my posts and you know I’m doing it for free. Nothing against her brother. He’s a great guy and got dealt a lot of bad cards in life. I’m a python programmer.

Back then I did ignore some red flags. One of the things she said was that she has concentric circles of people, and she was only totally herself and act freely with people in her innermost circle. Then after the marriage when she started being this way, her justification was that she didn’t have to filter herself with me because I was her innermost circle.

I’m on a work visa, and if I get divorced now, she will have to go back along with my daughter. I should either go back, get a new job there, and try to rebuild from scratch what I’ve built over 10 years, or stay here and get to meet my daughter once a year.

That is definitely true. I’ll probably shut this down and create a more general badrelationships community where you can rant and seek support for stuff like this.

I’m on a work visa, and if I get divorced now, she will have to go back along with my daughter. I should either go back, get a new job there, and try to rebuild from scratch what I’ve built over 10 years, or stay here and get to meet my daughter once a year.

So you’re saying you don’t need an air freshener in the car?

She had a lot of serious allergies when she was a child (with medications). They didn’t even give her any painkillers for her c-section because they didn’t know what painkiller they could give her without triggering any allergies. May be that is one reason why she is so paranoid about stuff like this. She doesn’t actually think we’ll suffocate, but she thinks it is unhealthy to breathe recycled air 24x7. There may be truth to it, but like you said, all it takes is opening door/window for a short period of time to get fresh air. She however does the opposite. Keeps windows and doors open for the whole day except for nights and a small amount of time when she turns on the ac. I’ll look into this attic/soffit air, because that sounds like something that might help things. Too bad the hvac guys didn’t say anything about it.

lol kind of, but it’s more to vent out my frustrations and serve to remind me of these things in case I start getting Stockholm syndrome. Didn’t expect this community to even get noticed, now I feel very visible and judged. May be that’s a good thing, where people can comment on whether anything I post is normal and I’m the one overreacting or something.

Can I post things I hate about your wife too?

Funny when you put it that way my first instinct is to defend her. I don’t think she is a bad person, after all she was the woman I fell in love with, but she certainly makes it difficult to root for her. I can say good things about her, but I always end up adding a ‘but’.

It was supposed to be a place for me to rant about my wife and I didn’t even expect this community to be found by anybody else. What the heck, may be it turns into a support group. Break a leg!

Like I said in another comment, I didn’t expect this level of attention/interaction in this community. Guess I’m still in reddit mindset where this community would have stayed alone for years with nobody noticing.