This post is not only to try finding the best Mastodon instance/server but I also wanted to express about the Mastodon instances. Most of Mastodon servers are apparently harsh about other instances that include things they don’t like and are quite serious about getting those Internet points putting how the place isn’t welcome for “bigotry” and is for everyone and so diverse, and I wouldn’t have any problems with this if this wasn’t frequently used by people who will try to shut you if they disagree enough with you and will try to present themselves as so virtuous. You’d expect that the free side of the Internet would have people that value freedom and should let anything that isn’t a crime or something that prejudice the instance itself or whatever space they’re in but it seems this vision is getting far from the reality with time.

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      In this case, your action is saying things that are very similar to the kinds of things fascists say when they to try to get a foot in the door. You may be simply unaware, but you should at least be made aware of what the actions were.

      I don’t think you’ll face banning or widespread defederation for respectfully sharing opinions that don’t boil down to “trans people shouldn’t exist” or “women exist to carry fetuses to term”.

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        In that case consequences should be equivalent in size to my actions which were to type words and the only reasonable consequence would be a discussion; unless I’m preceeding a crime, which would be a threat, which itself is a crime. Also, I didn’t even offend him in any way so I don’t see sense in him talking about consequences as if I said some absurdity about someone.

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          No, a perfectly reasonable consequence of saying things is other people choosing not to hear them, and even not to let you say them in their private spaces. You’re welcome to find private spaces that are uncensored, but nobody else is obligated to listen / federate with those kinds of spaces.

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            I agree with that but a home and a private space open to the public are quite different despite being private and usually follow different set of rules but always follow different set of morals/ethics.

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              But many of these instances very much aren’t open to the public in the same sense as e.g. a cake decorating business. Plenty of instances require you to write a story about why you should be allowed to join; they’re more like clubs trying to foster specific environments (many of which boil down to “everyone who is tolerant is welcome”).

              Facing the reality that you might not be tolerant is probably uncomfortable, but if you’re happy with vocal modern American conservative politicians, you need to take a long hard look at yourself. Whether or not McCain in 2000 was just “not saying the quiet part out loud” (as opposed to actually tolerant), the modern ones absolutely are saying it out loud. And so of course if you spout things that align closely to a Boebert or MTG or DeSantis, those “everyone tolerant is welcome” clubs won’t welcome you. Same goes for the extreme-authoritarian-left tankies, by the way.

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                I can’t really align with anyone these days because everyone is kinda dumb or downright evil. I just know that I’m a right guy and I like freedom, my spectrum would be more of classic liberalism than conservative. Also, they’ll actively try to look at something to try to “incriminate” you if you disagree in anything and they’ll just exclude you anyways if they can’t incriminate you, it’s not uncommon for a normal person to get banned from something like a game community cause you disagree with anything or some will straight up ban you for criticizing the game but the common aspect is always you getting accused of some ism. It’s a tool these days used by bullies who are too spoiled to accept anything other than praises; so you’re always expecting these “inclusive communities” to be a shit place full of bullies and 9 times out of 10 it is the case (the one time it isn’t is because you found some illegal group pretending to be from the inclusivity circle).

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                  I’d be super interested in seeing the “normal person” things you’ve said in a gaming community that got you banned.

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                    It occurs to me that people might still be removed from a community in which they “speak inclusively” if they’re saying exclusionary things in other places. People may decide they don’t want you in their social circles because of your actions in other circles. A Klan member or radical tankie who treats me nicely still doesn’t get to be my friend.

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                    A ring that you pay real life money for so you can get more EXP is a pay to win item.

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      What actions are you talking about?

      your actions. I’ve said this twice now.

      It is not straightforward

      your failure to comprehend a simple statement, even after it’s been deconstructed for you, isn’t my responsibility. if you require such hand-holding through a basic conversation, why did you post here? or is it that the basic concept of personal responsibility for your actions is completely alien to you?

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        Yes, I’m responsible for my actions and I should see the consequences if they’re equivalent to what I did. But what does it have to do with all this?

        Also, dropping “your actions have consequences” and refusing to explain further doesn’t explain much about what you wanted to say so I don’t understand how you expected me to understand a text without any meaning or connection to the discussion.

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          Yes, I’m responsible for my actions

          you say this, but you add the qualifier:

          if they’re equivalent to what I did

          yet you seem to set yourself as the only arbiter of your actions in the spaces with rules defined by others. I ask what do you believe entitles you to this right - to act as you wish, disregarding the rules - and to face consequences as only you define them rather than defined by the owners of that space?

          Also, dropping “your actions have consequences” and refusing to explain further

          how have I refused anything when all i’ve done is ask questions which you have constantly refused to answer? I have broken down that statement several times, yet you now make false accusations that can easily be disproven by reviewing earlier comments.

          and, additionally, what makes you feel entitled that if you fail to comprehend these basic concepts as I have explained, I should continue to hand-hold you though this conversation? why is that my responsibility rather than yours to either keep up or to step aside when it has clearly surpassed you ability to comprehend?

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            1. Yes, consequences shouldn’t be bigger than the actions. At least that’s the way most countries’ laws work, or do you think I should be decapitated if I steal a Nokia?

            2. You can drop any questions but you can’t expect people to understand it right away, essentially when the question makes no sense and/or have no connection with the discussed topic.

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              Yes, consequences shouldn’t be bigger than the actions. At least that’s the way most countries’ laws work

              that’s an opinion, not a fact. just because it’s yours doesn’t make it any more or less valid that anyone else’s

              do you think I should be decapitated if I steal a Nokia?

              what I think about that is irrelevant to the discussion for it is both a false equivalence and a straw man.

              You can drop any questions but you can’t expect people to understand it right away, essentially when the question makes no sense and/or have no connection with the discussed topic.

              I suspect most people here do, in fact, understand, regardless of your refusal to answer them— in fact, I suspect they understand that, too.

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                It’s not an opinion, that’s the system most countries’ laws use, where the criminal should pay an equivalent amount for the actions they made, be money, jail and even death in some cases but also other punishments that are not as frequently applied or known.

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                  it’s a fact that some countries have laws like that, but it’s your opinion that you should be treated that way everywhere you go and in every situation. and comparing the laws of some country and how some country treats a crime like theft to how a mastodon instance treats behavior of which it disapproves like bigotry is a false equivalence and a straw man.

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                    If you will, I may state that is also the opinion of the majority of people. If you don’t expect or accept a country acting like a ass just because it can then why should you do the opposite for anything else? In fact very little things change from this specific comparison as it should remain this way. Both share basically the same characteristics except that one is virtual and a private place open to the public while there other is real and is public.