wife and 2 kids, I do laundry once or twice a week. Wife and I fold kids clothes and put them away, takes like 15 minutes of actual effort for everything? As for “ever present work lurking in the periphery”: the only moment that needs to stay on mind is switching clothes from washer to dryer. The rest doesn’t have a time requirement, so let it go. Empty the dryer next time you need to shit or something.