It’s always been a variety of things. But the bdsm wedding band thing is old. Like pre AIDS leather old. And I’m not trying to imply it’s even the only modern use of a collar even in the bdsm community, but the term collaring does imply commitment far more than the act of wearing one does
Ok yeah that’s weird. I’ve used them in scene without commitment and in my marriage as very much commitment. You just communicate about it. And ironically I’d never suspect a pet player is using it as a sign of a lifestyle dynamic because that’s a very different context. It’s us lifestyle power exchange folks and non-pup leatherfolks that use them that way.
In college (a long time ago), people used to show up to parties wearing a collar to advertise that they were dtf.
I miss the simple usage of it, it’s kinda weird to me how it’s become a bdsm wedding band.
It’s always been a variety of things. But the bdsm wedding band thing is old. Like pre AIDS leather old. And I’m not trying to imply it’s even the only modern use of a collar even in the bdsm community, but the term collaring does imply commitment far more than the act of wearing one does
Ok. I am the last thing from a scenester so I’m sure you know better than me.
I do think it’s kind of a bummer that I can’t get that in low-stakes pet play b/c everybody has built it up so much.
Ok yeah that’s weird. I’ve used them in scene without commitment and in my marriage as very much commitment. You just communicate about it. And ironically I’d never suspect a pet player is using it as a sign of a lifestyle dynamic because that’s a very different context. It’s us lifestyle power exchange folks and non-pup leatherfolks that use them that way.
Sorry to ask, what does “dtf” mean?
“Down to fuck” i.e looking to get laid.