• Supervisor194@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      Any girl who would take the initiative to say something like this to a guy is into him. If she wasn’t, she wouldn’t have been vocal about it, she would have just properly avoided him.

      • -☆-@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        Absolutely not. Women are people the same way men are. We ask stupid questions that we didn’t think through purely out of curiosity, and then realize how rude it was on the drive home just like you do.

        She may be, but if she is, that’s a godawful opener. I have 0 rizz but something like ‘I like your shoes’ or w/e is never hard to pull.

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        1 year ago

        I think you got it. Time to pull out the the dress fedora and ask er out!

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        Holy shit there are a lot of incels here.

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        I half agree. It wasn’t the most tactful opener but I do believe she just wanted to talk. Maybe she was in to him, maybe she was just bored.

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          Pretty sure she wanted an icebreaker to reach a coworker that hasn’t said “hi” yet. Not everything is about “being into someone”, it’d be awful to work for a couple of years with a guy who looks angry all the time and hasn’t said a word to her.

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            So if she thinks it’s weird that he hasn’t said hi, why wouldn’t she just say “hi”? There’s literally a million other polite and innocuous things to say besides “why do you look angry.” Just the fact that they work together means they have to communicate at some point for their jobs.

            it’d be awful to work for a couple of years with a guy who looks angry all the time and hasn’t said a word to her.

            Who would care? I will never understand why people minding their own business bother other people so much. If she makes the choice to internalize someone else’s demeanor and facial expressions that have absolutely zero to do with her, then that’s her own insecurities coming through and she should probably look up some therapists.

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              So many assumptions over a greentext. I love that you diagnosed a person you have never met, over one sentence.

              Maybe stop doing that.

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          Or maybe she’s just Canadian and being polite, it’s really impossible to tell.

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            Except asking why you look angry all the time isn’t remotely polite. Not everything needs to be a reference

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              I can see the angle where it isn’t meant as something offensive, but yeah it’s not the best question to just leap into as an opener.

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        No. It’s just an equivalent to ‘why don’t you smile? You look so beautiful when you do’

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          You’re just wrong lol. Asking someone why they don’t smile more is fucking patronizing. Asking why someone looks angry all the time is about asking to learn more about them, as they have genuine interest in the person.

          Do you honestly think a woman would ask a man why they look angry all the time if they genuinely believed the man was simply angry?

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            Both can be patronizing.

            Do you honestly think a woman would ask a man why they look angry all the time if they genuinely believed the man was simply angry?

            And yeah, why not?