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don’t keep sweatin’ what I do 'cause I’m gonna be just fine

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Cake day: December 19th, 2023

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  • They clearly have a negative stereotype of women in their minds, and that’s the lens through which they judge the behavior of all women. So if a woman forgets something, it’s because “women are airheads”. If a woman is upset about something, it’s because “women can’t control their emotions”. And if a woman is good with kids, it’s because “women like children, that’s just natural”.

    And when a woman behaves counter to his preconceived ideas, she’s a bitch.


  • You wanna know something wild? I just saw a GI today for an IBS flareup that’s been going on since September, and I mentioned I thought it might be peri-related, and told her about a few more of my non-GI symptoms. I kid you not, she said “it sounds like you’ve got low estrogen, you should ask your GYN about bioidentical estrogen.” So the two of you convinced me to make an appointment with a new GYN and start that conversation! Thank you! :)


  • I asked my GYN and she said there’s nothing she can do for me right now because the go-to treatment approach is to prescribe a low-dose birth control, which I’m already on. I asked her if we could have my hormone levels measured and she said we could but that the test wouldn’t be informative because I’m on the pill. I need to find a new GYN since I’ve just moved, so maybe the next one will be more helpful!




  • Be kind to yourself, especially when you’re struggling. This one is tough for me because I’m forever calling myself an idiot or lazy when I know I’m neither of those things. But talking down to yourself is harmful and demoralizing*. I’m really trying to practice patience with myself, and to talk to myself as kindly as I would a dear friend. And praise yourself when you do something well!

    * Unless I know I’m being genuinely lazy, then a verbal kick in the pants can help ;)


  • She would be absolutely stunned. Probably wouldn’t believe me. At 43 I’m married to the guy I was dating at 19. At 19 I had dropped out of college and thought I wanted to be an artist; at 43 I’m already retired from a successful career in academic research. At 19 I had no thoughts about politics or the world as a whole (9/11 hadn’t happened yet); at 43 I’m pretty informed and opinionated. And she’d probably be surprised how much I’m into the outdoors, healthy living, and weightlifting, given that she had negative interest in those things. The rest is pretty consistent - e.g., I’ve always loved music from the '60s, fun nail polish, scifi, swimming, and handmade art (drawing, beading, etc).