• @Apytele
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    6 days ago

    Also I don’t think people realize how much time a (skilled / knowledgeable) sex worker spends vetting their clients. They’re one of the easiest and therefore most common demographics targeted by people who literally just wanna rape-torture-murder someone for varying to absolutely no reason. As a result a lot of sex workers have shared blacklists, some ask for references, some do background checks, some don’t work alone, etc. Only having to do that once or even not at all once the john is well-known is a huge time-and-effort saver, even if you ignore the fact that it’s just literally safer to take a chance on one man murdering you instead of five.

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      185 days ago

      The only institution that performs more criminal and social background checks than the ATF and intelligence apparatus is America’s network of communicating sex workers.

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        65 days ago

        I’m genuinely not sure if this is in jest or not. The way I know this is common is that it’s a common thread across human interest pieces about sex work. I grew up with those rare fundie parents that were big on education so anything they got weird about I just read about and they were more or less fine with that, so I just started reading about sex and have since gone on numerous multimonth ADHD hyperfixation learning binges about various aspects including both anatomy and physiology and the psychological and cultural ones. A good couple of them have either centered on or referenced sex work in some way. I don’t think I’m brave enough personally but it’s definitely fascinating.

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          35 days ago

          Ya know how therea books of short stories by authors or a collection of authors?

          You should totally do that with the numerous multimonth ADHD hperfixation learning binges you have gone on.

          But just write like just write out from memory as if it was a short story.

          Could collect from others like yourself and create anthologies of remembered knowledge. Like reviving or recreating an oral history like many people did in times of old

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            35 days ago

            I’ve been making obsidian vaults/notebooks actually! Earlier this year I made one about tarot cartomancy and what I guess you could call Christian Esotericism (connecting myself to many of the cultural traditions while eschewing most of the traditional bodies of authority) and right now I’m working on a basic/informal intro to DBT for people struggling to access talk therapies due to poverty and/or rural living.