• TheSlad
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    2 hours ago

    Theres a lot to unpack here, but really OP made a mistake by asking to go hiking. Thats a terrible first date idea and also isnt inherently date-y. Likely he was just missreading her kindness as flirting, but if he had asked her to dinner or coffee brunch it would’ve made his intentions more clear to her.

    Not that it really matters because its fake and gay anyways.

    • QuizzaciousOtter@lemm.ee
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      26 minutes ago

      Well, I read like a hundred times that going for a coffee is an incredibly boring date idea and doing some activity you both actually enjoy is much better.

      For what it’s worth, I hate the idea of a coffee / dinner date. Seems incredibly forced and like some kind of an interview. Though, I’m not dating and not interested in doing it, so I might be completely out of touch.

      • Moah@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        44 seconds ago

        Even if you want to do something more interesting than coffee, find something better than “let’s go together to a remote area where no one will hear you scream or find your body” or even just “you’ll be stuck the whole afternoon with no way out if it turns out you don’t like me.” If you want to do something like that, I would recommend a climbing gym or something like that instead. It’s public and it’s easy to leave, two things you should make sure to include in a first date.

      • Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        5 minutes ago

        I agree, coffee dates suck. I usually do a nature walk for a 1st date because it’s free and gives us something to do.

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        5 minutes ago

        In my opinion dating is basically an interview. Though for a first date i would choose some light activity so if conversation doesn’t naturally come it wouldn’t be awkward.

    • Bosht@lemmy.world
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      26 minutes ago

      Was that a =3 reference??? Christ I haven’t heard that in like a decade.