I’m familiar with one-uppers - like if you say I only got 6 hours of sleep last night and someone has to chime in and say “that’s nothing! I got only 3 hours”
So something similar to that but not one-upping.
Like if you said "I worked in a warehouse once, my boss was cool, and the work wasn’t bad. " And then someone replied with, “I don’t know what gravy-ass, non-real-job place you worked at, but every warehouse I have worked in sucks!”
So, the person is kind of one-upping but that the same time trying to claim that your lived experience isn’t true and their experience is the way things actually are.
Is there a word for that?
Gaslighting?
No
No, gaslighting is when you say it’s sunny outside and someone argues that it’s actually cloudy. You can see for yourself that it’s sunny, but they insist it’s not. Usually, it’s not so cut-and-dry, my example is absurd to demonstrate how insane it is. Usually it’s more subtle, like you’re sure you put your keys on the key-hook next to the door, but your spouse says that you didn’t and then finds them in the bathroom or something. You’re 100% sure you put them on the hook, but your spouse is 100% sure you didn’t. (Spoiler, you did, and the spouse moved them, then lied and said you must have done it. The point is to make you doubt yourself.)