I tried chatting on some of the recommended apps on Reddit and I can confirm that none of them work.

Which bring me to the following question: How do you find people who are interested in long-term relationships online?

Note: Please don’t suggest looking in the real life.

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    Searching for friends online isn’t going to fix the fact that you’re a nihilistic sad-sack whose interactions with people are always fundamentally unpleasant. Nobody wants to hang around someone who only says sad shit and no-one wants to be asked for advice then have their ideas shit on. That’s why so many depressed people turn into comedians, if you’re gonna say awful shit you at least need to wrap that turd up in some party paper and put a bow on top.

    This isn’t even me telling you not to look online; that’s actually completely fine. It just won’t actually fix the problem because your problem isn’t the format, it’s your attitude. This is blunt as shit but I worry if I state it less than completely explicitly you’ll gloss over it, and I wouldn’t say it at all if I didn’t think it was something you could change about yourself.

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      This is beyond true. It’s the mindset you bring to the table op. Don’t try to be something you’re not out something like that but you will have to try to be the version of yourself people want to talk to hang out with and be with. I know it’s not always sustainable but it’s much more important in the beginning.

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      6 hours ago

      Are you coming undone like this because they said “facebook dating is dead”?

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        What did they say that made you feel you need to try to dismiss/delegitamize them?

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          The fact that they were doing exactly what you’re accusing me of to somebody making a mild comment like “facebook dating is dead”. What the hell is wrong with people? Feeling the need to cyberbully and denegrate someone for that little comment is psychopathic.