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    6 days ago

    Disclaimer: I’m so far away from Blahaj’s demographic I don’t even know why I’m commenting…

    Random internet person called Ada devotes their time, bandwidth, expertise, server etc to help random netizens interact with each other. Sets some rules - their space, their rules. Reasonable.

    Don’t like the rules? Either fuck off or… find a workaround? “That person, their, you” should cover most things ( and are suitably neutral to not cause unnecessary offence) if you - a bit like me - sometimes struggle with all these new words and concepts. Failing that - stop visiting is always an option. What more is there to say?

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      Your outsider’s perspective is so valuable 😆 thanks for sharing

      Also silly because it’s such a small ask, it’s not like she is saying trolls are getting a free pass here, she’s just saying “hey we’re not gonna allow you to be the judge, jury, and executioner in the comments because that kind of diatribe is literally the stuff this community is designed to minimize—we ask you to just disengage completely (or find a workaround) rather than open the floodgates for more of the same discussion and abuse that our users deal with every day. If you suspect real trolling or damage, just report them and our crack team of mods will deal with it in a way that doesn’t involve any misgendering or harassment.”

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        First of all, thanks to you folk for allowing me to walk in and have a look around.

        Yes - it seems such a simple ask. Play by the rules; or don’t play at all.

        A few people I work with occasionally had real problems in this field. I discovered that calling a Portuguese Spanish, Bangladeshis Indian and Poles German soon focused their minds on accuracy of language. I’m an (adopted) Welsh person and have spent about two percent of my entire life explaining that I’m not English. I suppose it’s a parable of sorts…

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      5 days ago

      I totally agree but would also like to point out that “their” and “you” are not accepted by either of the subjects of this drama.

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        If that is true (which somehow I don’t doubt) I think those two people might need to be Three Billy Goats Gruffed out of here - but it’s not my space to make that call.

        Failing that? Perhaps an intervention might help.