• southsamurai
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    16 hours ago

    Fake and gay as hell. No anon ever gets laid.

    That out of the way, this is the kind of thing I wish I could tell folks about when they haven’t run into it before.

    Sex is great. Even casual sex can be great. But sometimes, casual sex is just masturbating with someone else’s genitals instead of your hand.

    When you go into it drinking and aren’t even working off of mutual sexual interest, that sometimes becomes much more likely.

    But holy fuck, sex isn’t something that is magic in and of itself. Hooking up is usually the opposite of magic. If you don’t go into it with the right frame of mind, you might as well buy a dildo or fleshlight

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      10 hours ago

      I had a lot of casual sex when my ex wife and I split. It was filling a gap (pun intended) in my heart, but it was also me learning my own mind, body, and soul. I don’t regret it, but towards the end of that crazy year I did start to resent myself and my actions. I had a lot of fun and met some truly awesome women, but it was all skin deep. I am in a committed stable relationship now, going on 9 years, and having gone through my ho phase, I value and treasure my partner in ways I simply could not have, had I not been a ho for a year.

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        3 hours ago

        Yeah, I feel that. For me the casual sex I had was about not having the time to develop a proper relationship. But I did learn a lot about myself my doing things that way.