• Majorllama@lemmy.world
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    The existence of casual sex implies the existence of ranked competitive sex.

    Jokes aside some people need an emotional connection to have sex. Many do not.

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        I wish I could pretend like I don’t know who any of those people are.

        I’m surprised Belle Delphine is still pulling those numbers. I thought once she gave up the goods so to speak that everything would collaps. I guess I’m happy for her?

        Idk who the rest of those people are… Is that the catch me outside girl? She’s old enough for porn now?? Fuck what happened to the time.

        Edit: fat fingered something

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    Folks, some people don’t like casual sex. Some people do. Depends a lot on why a person likes sex, if they like sex, I suppose.

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    How about just having sex and then a nice conversation in bed? Maybe dude isn’t able to do the second part and it gets awkward.

    Tell you what. I’ll be the pinch hitter for future casual sex. Just dip out and I’ll take the hit for you.

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    maybe he just doesn’t like sex

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      Not necessarily. Sex, even casual sex, can complicate or completely destroy a relationship. If I had drunken casual sex with a coworker I’d have regrets.

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          Unless discordianism counts, not in the slightest. For me it would be about the potential drama.

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    Fake and gay as hell. No anon ever gets laid.

    That out of the way, this is the kind of thing I wish I could tell folks about when they haven’t run into it before.

    Sex is great. Even casual sex can be great. But sometimes, casual sex is just masturbating with someone else’s genitals instead of your hand.

    When you go into it drinking and aren’t even working off of mutual sexual interest, that sometimes becomes much more likely.

    But holy fuck, sex isn’t something that is magic in and of itself. Hooking up is usually the opposite of magic. If you don’t go into it with the right frame of mind, you might as well buy a dildo or fleshlight

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      I had a lot of casual sex when my ex wife and I split. It was filling a gap (pun intended) in my heart, but it was also me learning my own mind, body, and soul. I don’t regret it, but towards the end of that crazy year I did start to resent myself and my actions. I had a lot of fun and met some truly awesome women, but it was all skin deep. I am in a committed stable relationship now, going on 9 years, and having gone through my ho phase, I value and treasure my partner in ways I simply could not have, had I not been a ho for a year.

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        Yeah, I feel that. For me the casual sex I had was about not having the time to develop a proper relationship. But I did learn a lot about myself my doing things that way.

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    Honestly, I always felt the same way when I was younger. People would just meet up and fuck, like a fun thing, and I was never that into it. I thought something was wrong with me that I didn’t get it, until I started spending time with girls I had a real-life connection with, and then it was magic.

    Pop culture lied to me. The club is bullshit. Casual sex is an awkward wasteland. Props if you’re into it I guess, but somehow young adult America turned it into the default, when it’s not the way.

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      young adult America turned it into the default, when it’s not the way.

      It’s the same way in europe, I hate it.

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      Capitalism turned it into default by turning dating into a catalogue you could surf from your couch instead of building meaningful connections with people.

      In the name of profit

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      It is quite far from the default. That’s just a perception issue. Most young adults aren’t even having sex much less casual sex. Like sure tinder exists but it is primarily a fwb generator, not a meet someone new to fuck every day (at least for most people).

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      Thing is, there is not a “way”. Some people enjoy casual sex, some yearns for a deeper connection, some don’t like sex at all. It varies depending on people, sexual preferences, mood, age, etc.

      I don’t like the “they lied to me” mentality. Brother, they didn’t lie, it’s just not for you right now, and maybe never. You just need to find your way.

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      I’ve known people who’ve wondered if they were asexual because of this, then later realized that pop culture isn’t real life.

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    I’m assuming anon is young, cuz if I was young and single again, I’d tap that shit multiple times, hot asian milfs need love too!

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      Yeah, he’ll be yearning for a second chance at that someday, no doubt.