EDIT: I DO NOT NEED ADVICE ON WHY IT HAPPENED. THERE IS A VERY GOOD REASON WHY MY DAD USED TO CHOKE WHEN HE WAS ALIVE. MY LOVED ONES == MY DAD.

WORDS OF CONSOLATION ARE WELCOME, ANYTHING ELSE BUZZ OFF, GO BUG SOMEONE ELSE. You either comment to make me feel better under my mental health post or refrain from writing. It’s simple

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Nowadays if anyone even coughs while we are eating I get startled and anxious and if someone starts to choke and gets red I rush in like crazy and do the manoeuvre and then they are OK but I am left trembling and shaking and crying, feel terrible while everyone else is like shrugging it off.

I remember I had to do this many times on my father and it was really scary especially once or twice or thrice I can’t remember as he collapsed to the ground and I couldn’t lift him again and there were red dots on his face saliva dropping and collapsing on the ground

Actually it happened again today now on someone else and it fucking ruined my day and everyone just moved on like it was nothing, chatting happily now in the next room. Like we weren’t this close even tho the person was sitting afterwards with red eyes and face and who the fuck knows what was going to happen

I am anxious to eat certain things alone. I don’t eat fucking apples nor groats and every time I am alone I eat very carefully some things like some gollum hunching over the plate

Why do they not care and chat like nothing happened

  • iAmTheTotEnglish
    14·
    2 days ago

    Your family should get checked out for EoE. It has a genetic link.

      • Lupus@feddit.orgEnglish
        11·
        2 days ago

        I don’t see any connection

        Really?

        You know how many Heimlich Maneuvers I had to perform in my 35 years on this earth? Zero.

        Or how often it has been performed on me? Zero.

        And how often was I witness to the Heimlich maneuver being performed on someone? You guessed it, zero.

        If it happens frequently within your family there has to be a reason for it, EoE is a good guess because it would explain it well.

        Go see a doctor about it.

              • Lupus@feddit.orgEnglish
                4·
                2 days ago

                Okay, i’ll admit my tone was a little snarky, but the degree of hostility you’re showing still feels unwarranted and excessive so I will now disengage and block you.

          • Cyclist@lemmy.worldEnglish
            2·
            2 days ago

            This is sad. Your PTSD is going to be worse when someone dies in your arms because you’re too arrogant to listen to advice.

            • 𝓔𝓶𝓶𝓲𝓮@lemm.eeOPEnglish
              16·
              2 days ago

              I didn’t ask for the frikin advice… You have no idea about my life or why it happened. Do you even know how unhinged you are?

              This is mental health support community so please go away and bother someone else

              All I want is a bit of validation and support and not some fucking ‘experts’ theoretising shit knows what based on few lines of text and no details whatsoever

              If you don’t know how to do it then just be quiet

              • iAmTheTotEnglish
                3·
                2 days ago

                The reason I suggested it is because it sounded similar to my situation and seeking treatment has made things so much better. Of course, I could be totally wrong about what the cause is, but I can assure you it’s not normal and something is behind this.

                • 𝓔𝓶𝓶𝓲𝓮@lemm.eeOPEnglish
                  15·
                  2 days ago

                  I know it’s not normal I mean my dad who I had to save died from a brain virus that turned them into literal living zombie pissing and shitting under themselves and begging to be put out of misery. I imagine you can have problems swallowing in such situation, don’t you think?

                  So if you really wanted to know that, ta-dah this is the fucking reason Dr House

                  I didn’t post this to hear from some Lupuses about why I should be grateful for some random people to tell me what I should do or not but I just wanted a little bit of empathy, validation and support

                  • iAmTheTotEnglish
                    7·
                    2 days ago

                    I think that you may want to take a break from Lemmy and cool off. I’m sorry that you didn’t get what you wanted out of this post but try coming back to it with a fresh perspective later. I hope things get better for you.

      • iAmTheTotEnglish
        3·
        2 days ago

        My father choked a lot, and two of my siblings have some difficulty swallowing, and I had it the worst, choked on food lots and lots, like feared I was going to die sometimes. I finally got it checked out and I had a REALLY restricted esophagus due to EoE.

        They stretched my esophagus out (I actually will be going back in for another stretch because they couldn’t do it all in one go, that’s how bad it was). Eating has been soooooo much better ever since.

        Because it specifically has a genetic component, that’s why I suggested it based on what you’ve said. It’s a fairly newish disorder (in terms of discovery/definition) so not a lot of people have heard of it but it’s not that uncommon.