• konidia
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    23 hours ago

    But we typically have that urge only from those we find attractive (unless it’s a child or pet).

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      22 hours ago

      If we’re still speaking on the topic of men, then you would be surprised to find out otherwise. Certainly attractiveness makes it more compelling, but even older male peers relying on you for help can have a positive effect on us. Benjamin Franklin once wrote about improving his relationship with a political opposition and rival by asking them, with humility, to lend him a recommended book. When we help our elders, it makes us feel proud and a sense of filial piety. People only abandon their lessers due to environmental stress or greed.

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        19 hours ago

        Ah apology, I was speaking more in the context of clingy girlfriend or boyfriend. Not the general desire to be dependable.