• Transient Punk
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    7 months ago

    Don’t have friends and my wife is cold as ice. Kinda want to go to sleep and not wake up

    • guyrocket
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      447 months ago

      Get some help, my friend. I have found the darkness of depression to be a false darkness. Life can be pretty good, we want you to be there for yours.

    • @[email protected]
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      277 months ago

      The hell are you staying with her for? You’ve got one fucking life. Get yourself away from that toxicity and maybe you’ll find life isn’t that bad after all.

      • PhobosAnomaly
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        7 months ago

        I agree with the sentiment but it is easier said than done - splitting finances, houses, assets, debts etc is a mahoosive pain in the arse, and may well be perceived as less of an evil than actually putting up with the daily shit.

        Ultimately though I do agree, it doesn’t change without some fundamental movement - either recover what relationship you have with the wife, or start planning a 12 month strat to get your shit in order and pivot to a more single lifestyle for a while.

        Good luck bro/broette. You got this, and we’re happy that you’re here.

        • @[email protected]
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          -37 months ago

          Just choose a hobby and do that once or twice a week as your time. If she has any issues tell her to fuck off.

          • Transient Punk
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            7 months ago

            She’s not mean, she’s just indifferent and distant. An emotional wet blanket

            • @[email protected]
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              27 months ago

              What I’m saying its okay for you to do your own things.

              You don’t need to be around her 24/7 and something that will make you happy and recharged could be good for you both.

              It’s like the oxygen mask. You got to put yours on first before helping others

            • Franzia
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              17 months ago

              On the spectrum? Or the dark triad spectrum? Inb4 you tell me she’s a surgeon or one of those insurance mathematicians.

            • @[email protected]
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              17 months ago

              Maybe try therapy? Would you she be up for that and would you? Just thinking out loud. There is usually a reason people are indifferent and distant, and if you guys had a setting you could analyze and talk about it, maybe that would be good?

    • @UNWILLING_PARTICIPANT
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      137 months ago

      Damn that’s not ok. You deserve friendship and warmth. You might have to work for it, but still

    • @[email protected]
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      7 months ago

      There’s still time to make new friends, you just have to discover new places or try to talk with people you never talked much. If you are unhappy with your marriage, you two might possibly need some marriage counseling. An unhappy marriage can make things worse my friend. That’s what I learnt from my dad all these years.

    • @Quexotic
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      17 months ago

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