• sugar_in_your_tea
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    6 months ago

    Or just change your standards. Try to find someone you share something in common with, don’t just go for looks. I don’t know if that’s helpful or actionable though.

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      6 months ago

      I don’t go for looks. I am too ugly for that. It seems I struggle with finding a common ground with women. Add to that my emotional dysregulation and you have a recipe for disaster like me.

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        6 months ago

        Consider not looking for women and just looking for people that share your interests. The more people you interact with, the more likely one of them will either be a woman or know a woman who you’d be interested in.

        Then again, random Internet advice is worth about what you paid for it. Good luck! I hope you find what you’re looking for.

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          I wish it were that simple. My primary interests are books. I couldn’t find any book clubs in my city. Since, finishing college I have no way of meeting new people.

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            6 months ago

            Try discord servers for books, my best friend found his partner on one and a couple years later he moved countrys to live with her! Try reading groups or other such things and you’ll surely find people you have something in common with, and who knows where those relationships will lead you

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            When is the last time you checked? My local library hosts a couple, and there are a few in my neighborhood, though you’d need to get to know people first.

            So that’s what I recommend. If you love books, get to know your neighbors and talk to them about the books you love. You might just find a local book club or something.