• starman2112
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      7 months ago

      Right, but like. Why is wanting to have sex so important?

      • ma1w4re@lemm.ee
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        7 months ago

        I’m not very sensitive to my feelings, this my entire life I relied on my smarts to figure things out. And now that I think about it bit more indepth, sex itself is not as important to me.

        I’m a romantic type, I want to love someone and maybe hopefully be loved too. Now, here’s my rambling: the sex part probably comes in a strong desire to have children that I noticed I have, and a want for emotional bonding.

        I’m not exactly 100% sure on this self analysis, but judging by a gut feeling when I imagine those things happening, I’d say thats probably the closest thing to reality.

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          You sound like a reasonable dude. So long as you’re doing stuff for fun that requires other people and being in person, nigh on guaranteed you’ll run into someone who wants to hang out with you and is basically the same.

          People wind up sleeping together at some point.

          Just mix. Your people are hiding in the same places you are.

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        7 months ago

        Idk but if it was a felony to get laid I still would. Probably a biological desire or something.

        Like, it’s valuable to deconstruct the social aspect of it, but also people had to go to the Supreme Court for the right to get laid in my country so there’s definitely more than just a social aspect.

        The issue is that barring external factors you still have to actually get someone to want to fuck you to have sex with them and that’s the hard part for many of these folks. And I get that that sucks

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          7 months ago

          I get that. I just think that the idea that not wanting to have sex scares ma1w4re is strange.

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            That makes sense. I guess I just assumed he meant it as a “some dreams are met with acceptance of the fact that they’ll never happen” way. Like being ok with the fact that you’ll never be famous or learning to stop wanting parental love. Not asexuality, but complacency and acceptance.