• @[email protected]
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    “buy all groceries in self checkout”

    Fucking normie, still regularly leaving the house…

    • @sugar_in_your_tea
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      I’m not paying those delivery fees, it’s a matter of principle…

  • @[email protected]
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    i know everyone who goes on that god forsaken site is a whiny bitch but at a certain point you got have some self responsibility for lacking a social life.

    • @Kecessa
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      Reminds me of a colleague of mine who complains about not being fun anymore and also saying that if there’s a knock at the door everyone in the house goes into stealth mode (including the kids!), if the phone rings no one answers, when they get something delivered (and that happens often because they get their groceries delivered) they prepay so they can ask for it to be dropped on the porch so they don’t need to have human contact…

      I feel like returning to the office might actually be good for them…

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        soo not to get too deep into it but as an anarchist i think working is really important to ones mental health. Of course working a job that doest make u wanna kill yourself is key and doing something u can at least semi enjoy helps so fucking much but in this capitalist hellscape thats a really fucking big luxury and that makes already society inept people into a someone who goes on 4chan.

        But at the end of the day they ultimately make the choice to not talk to anyone. They could start small like actually talking to a cashier and working their way back up from their. They could call someone. If you just silently put yourself into a corner and never make an attempt to better yourself i dont know what to say. Ive been in the deeps of depression and i know its hard but you have to make some effort on your own somewhere.

        i got deep into it, yap sesh concluded

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          I haven’t identified as an anarchist in 30 years but I’ll tell you this. What you described is basic humanity and we all agree with you.

          • @[email protected]
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            i just dont wanna be mistaken for a pull yourself up by yer bootstraps asshole. Lifes hard and so is happiness, however thats not an excuse to surround yourself with hopeless malice and not pur any effort in being a social being which is what humans are and need to be unfortunately.

        • @rambling_lunatic
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          Hey, fellow anarchist.

          One would do well to remember that while working for wages sucks balls and alienates you, labor itself is an integral part of living a fulfilling life. I think that’s at the core of what you’re trying to say.

          Cheers

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          I think you’re right about work, having a 9-5 means you have a reason to get up in the morning, and tends to get you into the habit of getting up at a similar time on the weekend as well.

          Personally, I think having nothing to do is worse for your mental health than anything else.

    • @[email protected]
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      211 month ago

      I think about this

      Im a slightly more active introvert, so I masquerade as a extrovert and adopting other introverts.

        • @sugar_in_your_tea
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          Outside is fine, as long as it’s not with a bunch of other people. Walk that dog early in the morning or in the middle of the day, not at the “normal” times.

      • @sugar_in_your_tea
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        That was me in high school. Then I moved and married an extrovert in denial (claims to be an introvert, but COVID hit them hard, so I’m not so sure). Seems to work out okay.

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    “none of my friends from high school have ever bothered to contact me”.

    Best line 🤣 Maybe you should contact them.

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        My physical proximity friend group is delightful. It’s the only friend group I’m in where we don’t basically all have the same views and opinions, political, religious, etc. I love my family friend group and my found family, but I just played in the ocean last night with friends from highschool (some back to elementary school) and all their wives and it was a blast. We graduated more than a decade ago.

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          51 month ago

          Cool. I shared class with people who had AOL screen names like bombmexico, who impersonated cops, and who considered church a good first date. I’m pretty ok with not having people who disagree on topics of racism, fascism, homophobia, transphobia , etc, in my social circle.

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      81 month ago

      It’s the “nobody invites me to parties” guy who also never went out of their way to create a party or social event, or did it one time and it sucked and then blames society.

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      Normal life is kind of an oxymoron, like jumbo shrimp or rap music. It’s not really a “thing”. There are maybe a few dozen people I can point to that live a “normal” life…and most if not all are boring AF. Fucking losers. They don’t really live, they just kind of exist & skate by, from cradle to grave.

      As Abraham Lincoln said, it’s not about the years in your life, it’s the life in your years. Live a life that actually has meaning, and purpose.

      Don’t worry about being normal. Look around at what is normal. Isn’t it kind of disappointing? Be more than normal. The bar is really low right now, just be a nice person & you’ll fucking step over it.

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    261 month ago

    One of the reasons why I never will want to do WFH, I just know that I will turn into this greentext

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        I find it interesting that somehow most of the comments assume anon is complaining when the pic is gigachad and it really reads more as making fun of himself without really having a problem with it.

        Like honestly it sounds pretty alright

    • @Kecessa
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      At some point you gotta take responsibility for yourself for stuff like that, it’s just as sad if the only reason you see people is because you have to show up to the office… There’s a whole lot of time outside work hours to see people!

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    So many people in here are assuming the OP on 4chan is massively depressed and being sarcastic about the “Yup life is good” comment. Kinda seems “extraversion-normativity” in here.

    Many folks are “over-socialized” too.

    • @sugar_in_your_tea
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      Yeah, that honestly sounds pretty good to me. I’m married, so I get plenty of social interaction between work and my wife, so that lifestyle would be great for me. In fact, I really enjoyed the COVID lockdowns because I was able to limit my socializing to a few video calls here and there.

      Now that COVID lockdowns are a thing again, I’m constantly drained because it seems like everyone wants to go out and do stuff, when I’d like to just read a book or something.

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      Four years without contact from another human being is not healthy, doesn’t matter if you are an introvert.

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          I think that had more to do with the government intentionally breaking him, psychologically, as part of MK Ultra, while he was in college. The isolation probably did make it worse though.

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            I mean hiring a prosecutor from Boston to disagree and personally attack him definitely did not help

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      It is seriously shocking how many assholes are posting here like the OPs life is something to pity and needs to change.

      Literally the point of the post is to demonstrate this is a gigachad perspective.

      Some of us don’t need constant external validation from people to avoid turning into a psychotic mentally ill mess.

      Some of us ain’t as weak as y’all and would rather not interact with other people. Especially people like y’all who immediately assume everyone around you must change their lives to suit yours.

      Everyone posting about how this person needs to change should take a serious evaluation at their own narcissism.

      For being extroverts, y’all sure are a bunch of fucking assholes.

      • @decisivelyhoodnoises
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        I would ask “who hurt you?” but solitude can be damaging for one’s mental health too. No, seriously, I get the point you want to make but not having talked to any other person for 4 years is not healthy either. It looks like you have internalized a lot of these things that you wrote about and the way you talk about them doesn’t look like you can find whatever you need too.

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        There isn’t medical professional on earth that would agree that 4 years, without human contact, is healthy.

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    That’s why it’s so important to me to:

    • live in a big city where you can go in bars or cafes and just listen to human voices
    • live in a shared apartment
    • “study” at university (mostly for the human contact)
    • work physically, i.e. supermarket
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      I work at home and I’m in my 40s with my family.

      I use meetup.com to find events and hang out with other 40yos and commiserate about how this is the first time we’ve been outside in a week.

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        Yeah, i don’t really like using commercial platforms to find partners. It’s the same with tinder etc…

        I like finding people irl, though it is more difficult. Also, it would be cool if there were websites where you can find partners, but community hosted, like lemmy. For example for trans people etc…

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        good for you :)

        I had something similar, finally starting an on-site job after 4 years of studying which was mostly at-home.

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    The healthiest I’ve ever been in my life, both physically and mentally, was when I was alone for weeks at a time. I worked from home, didn’t have money to eat at restaurants or go out.

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      I’ve done that before and had the opposite experience. I was utterly miserable and experienced really bad mental health side effects

    • Sabata
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      Things have been getting better since I moved out on my own. Still a mess, but improving.

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    Recently got out of a bad relationship and still have a little time left in my lease until I can move out and be alone. Gotta say, this sounds incredibly peaceful.

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      The trick is just to pay for everything in your relationship so when it falls apart you’re still good and in your apartment… At least that’s what I keep telling myself

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        While nice in theory, I have also have two roommates, and I have no interest in trying to kick them out over my relationship issues.

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    People need to realize that they need to change their own behavior for things to change. It’s not always someone elses fault. It can be, but it’s not always.