I asked my crush out on a date x years ago.
Last night I just asked them to marry me.
They said yes both times and I’m so glad I had the courage to speak up.
As you read the story, you generally assume that they were dating and eventually got engaged. The picture shows a couple that you assume is them before you finish reading. Then you get to the line about how they said no both times and realize it’s not the typical boring engagement post, but a joke about being a creep.
That’s beside the point. If you understand why it’s not okay to make racist or otherwise-bigoted jokes, you should understand why this sort of humor perpetuating the normalization of harassment isn’t a great idea either.
Then why is it okay to harass people with stupid “You just have to be brave enough to ask her?” style posts, those probably hurt anyone who tried that and got rejected.
Okay, I’ll explain it clearly for the incels among us:
Asking a woman out once is perfectly fine*. It also might be okay to try again after a while if she said “no” that first time, if your relationship evolves and circumstances change.
When it becomes harassment is when you refuse to take “no” for an answer and do it repeatedly with no legitimate reason to believe that she changed her mind.
(* Assuming there isn’t something like a power imbalance going on, in which case you either never ask or you resign from your position of power over her before asking.)
I don’t understand any of this. Someone help me.
It’s a twist on the usual “I asked her out, now I asked her to marry me” posts about couples but the twist is that she said no instead of yes.
Thank you
It’s a play on a format of post that goes:
As you read the story, you generally assume that they were dating and eventually got engaged. The picture shows a couple that you assume is them before you finish reading. Then you get to the line about how they said no both times and realize it’s not the typical boring engagement post, but a joke about being a creep.
Thanks, I thought it was a famous couple or something and I was missing some backstory content.
“Ha ha funny harassment amirite?”
Friend I don’t think it really happened
That’s beside the point. If you understand why it’s not okay to make racist or otherwise-bigoted jokes, you should understand why this sort of humor perpetuating the normalization of harassment isn’t a great idea either.
Then why is it okay to harass people with stupid “You just have to be brave enough to ask her?” style posts, those probably hurt anyone who tried that and got rejected.
Okay, I’ll explain it clearly for the incels among us:
Asking a woman out once is perfectly fine*. It also might be okay to try again after a while if she said “no” that first time, if your relationship evolves and circumstances change.
When it becomes harassment is when you refuse to take “no” for an answer and do it repeatedly with no legitimate reason to believe that she changed her mind.
(* Assuming there isn’t something like a power imbalance going on, in which case you either never ask or you resign from your position of power over her before asking.)
Abolish marriage, too? Sure. But let the silly joke bring some joy to our miserable lives, pls.
Edit: I upvotes all your posts, but I still think that saying the joke promotes sexual harassment is stretching the concept
Telling lemmitors not to harass women?
That’s a downvote!